Thought provoking question @eco-alex. I agree that so much begins in the womb or as a very tiny child. But I also find that happiness is intricately tied up with gratitude. Gratitude despite so much. We have to overcome our bitterness (over others decisions and influences) and regret (over our own decisions and actions). Happiness should be irrespective of another person or place or circumstance. Being grateful for our blessings helps us look past the sadness over what could or should be different