Before anyone gets in an uproar, we had to get rid of our last dog be she was a very anxious herding dog who tried to stop my autistic son from having his melt downs. Back then Gavin would have aggressive melt downs several times a day, and when Tippy tried to intervene Gavin would kick or punch her. My friend took Tippy in, as she had been looking for another dog since her's had died. She was very well taken care of and loved at her new home. She died at the age of 5 from kidney failure, but not form a lack of care.
Gavin is calmer now, meltdowns much more rare. Things are under control and Alfie, not being a herder, just avoids Gavin when he's upset. L's mom.