I just looked up the definition of hero, and it says someone who is admired for their courage, outstanding achievement or noble qualities. So perhaps women DO look for heros in terms of someone they can admire, not necessarily because they are needy in some way? This certainly would be true for me, as I was always drawn to creative people who impressed me with their talents, or who were courageous and able to stand up for their beliefs. Then I ended up married to a free-thinking writer from Northern Ireland! Says it all...