I just now saw this. Sometimes I'm on HIVE more than STEEM and Blurt.
I certainly can see what you are talking about with guys trying to waste your time acting like a potential client for photography or something when they were really trying to get closer to you for a date.
I still go back to the whole thing on if someone is "using" someone and how that relates to sex. As a man if I'm not getting the woman off multiple times compared to how many times I'm getting off I consider it a sub par performance. So if the woman is getting off in my opinion that is in a way and even trade. Then the time spent when two people are hanging out and having sex is an even trade in some respects. We could dive on a deeper level with that and come up with scenarios where one person's time might be more valuable than someone elses but for the most part let's say that's an even trade.
I think from my perception it would be an intoxicating drug to be a beautiful woman and get the attention and essentially having men willing to expend all resources to be around. I'm not going to lie I think it would be hard to manage.
As a man that has some level of success with women that would be considered beautiful by the mass majority of the population I can tell you this and I have thought about this for a long time. There are so many options that it certainly becomes too great for most beautiful women so sort through it all and to figure out what truly would be best for her. It's impossible to know but since the options are of such high caliber and especially for these women in college you would think that after dating a handful of guys and sorting through their best options they would have arrived at something fairly stable but I see it all the time this isn't the case. I just think it is too many options and women aren't going to starve without a man in a place like the United States so depending how they are feeling that day they can go forward with it or not.
Also it's hard to sit there and tell a woman she really needs to select her best option by the time she is 23 and ride or die with that situation. Personally I think most women would be best off by doing that and I feel that most women are playing out their options way into unnecessary overtime but I 100% see how it happens and why it happens.
For a man to come along and fuck her better than any other dude and be on a higher level than the other guys is a tough task overall. I've ran up on this a lot of times myself where I have to have so many elite facets to my game it's mind blowing. And let's be honest with ourselves. We can say I'm lucky but also I have put in an insane amount of work to arrive at this point. It's exhausting but most dudes are straight up starving out there and just deleting themselves. This past weekend hanging out with friends from the past I was informed about a couple more suicides.
You realise ppl fall in love right hahaha women don’t just select from options and think about what makes sense or even half the time have the mental capacity at that age to know what they are really choosing they just feel love / a connection and hope for the best at that age. Just as men struggle, women struggle I don’t know why men think they struggle but all women should have it all together and find and pick the very right man for them by 23, 2 years after a persons brain has fully developed hahaha. Someone can even want to ride and die but if the other person doesn’t want to it’s a done deal and they can’t force them to ride and die with them. I think it’s a silly attitude myself to expect men to take ages to figure it out but women should do it all by a certain age. That also relies on them picking someone that also also has it all together and picked exactly right at 23 it’s not a one side and done. For a woman to marry a guy at 23 and let’s assume they are both 23 that relies on two ppl not one.
I think you’ve read a few too many red pill blogs or know some rly weird women. No genuine woman wants the best fu** or the richest man they just want to fall in love and it be reciprocated. People are putting focus on all the wrong things these days imo. It’s all become very materialised. People don’t marry someone because they are good in bed else everyone would want to date a porn star it’s just not what most ppl care about. Sure they want to feel a sexual compatibility but they don’t want some porn king haha it’s about so much more. It does seem more difficult these days for ppl to stick it out tho for sure even in marriages and engagements it doesn’t mean much anymore
I get what you are saying about deciding from a lineup and anyone can do whatever they want. I just think there is a major misalignment of what people want and oftentimes it isn't based in reality. One of the common things I see an insane amount of women here in the United States saying is they want kids but biologically it makes no sense for when they are saying that and then I have seen a ton of women wait until its way too late.
Unlimited Options and unlimited time and I see all the time where they think they are going to snap their fingers and the guy they always dreamed of will be right there solving all their problems.
As far as love, I feel that men catch feelings and fall harder than women because they don't have as many options. It is often the women leaving the man. I have experienced this several times in the last couple of years. I would continue to spend time with the woman but they torch the situation. They usually come back around but sometimes not because they have so many perceived options.
And it isn't that I have necessarily watched too much Red Pill stuff or any of that. Honestly a lot of that content sort of confirmed the reality that I had already experienced throughout time.
I know when it comes to the sex component and the physical compatibility component that is the reason several of the women came back around full circle and reached out to me again. I know that because they said that.
Statistically things aren't looking good out there with relationships and marriage. Ultimately birthrates are dropping in a lot of countries. This disconnect between men and women seems to be causing a lot of people to be very unhappy.
I just think it’s up to each individual it’s not rly up to a guy to decide when a woman is happy to settle down or vice versa. I think a lot of ppl would love to settle down and be with the right person but if ppl settle young without truly falling in love just based on someone being available they will almost undoubtedly divorce later / stop having intimacy pretty early in the marriage. You see this a lot I know ppl divorce quicker now / single longer but how many ppl int he past were truly happy ? I think you would be surprised how many ppl in relationships have sex like once a month. Is that really a happy relationship? I think it’s up to ppl these days they can just settle for who wants them earlier or they can take the risk of leaving it and keep working on themselves till they can attract true love. I often wonder if those who find it rly young did a lot of work on themselves in past lives or something as it seems so easy for some. Pretty much all my friends had their first child around 40 so that’s never been something I’ve seen as a block really but it is down to priorities at the end of the day some ppl are infertile so they will always have to explore other options like adoption. For me it’s always been about connection and I woudl rather wait till 60 than be in a relationship with someone just for the sake of settling down. Hopefully it works out with my current partner and I don’t have to as we do have a strong spiritual connection but that hasn’t always meant things worked out! I think if you truly love someone it becomes less about age, how you have kids, looks, money and any of these things as the love comes first and you work around the rest. If ppl prefer to just not hold out for that type of spiritual love that’s also their choice tho. But I think everyone has to do what makes them happy. I have a few friends who settled to have kids and they are absolutely miserable now and defo on brink of splitting. I don’t think it necessarily makes everyone happy to just stick it out.
I do agree with this current disconnect man and woman hating tho it’s a bloody joke. People are just so judgmental over one another these days I blame social media and dating apps. I’ve always refused to use dating apps as I think they are ruining society myself.
It is interesting as I’m British and I’ve actually dated two Americans weirdly and they do complain more about women than how I see women so maybe it is a bit different there. My bf does always think women leave: sends me all these articles of women leaving their nfl boyfriends and it’s just not the reality I see here it’s mostly men that run at 3 months when they fear commitment after initially making all the promises in the world. I saw so many beautiful, intelligent friends go through those cycles endlessly! I think dating apps don’t help as ppl can have one argument and they are on there the next day re instating their profile. It’s something I rly value about my guy as Altho the distance is difficult and it’s not been smooth at all he rly never gives up and is stable in that sense something I’ve truly never experienced with the guys here. They are mostly commitment phobic and only rly end up chasing ppl who are not that interested in them as it’s more exciting. I am in a capital city tho and it’s full of foreigners it’s prob totally different out on the smaller towns. Most my friends at one point were models, intelligent and loyal and struggled like hell to find loyal guys. None were going for rich guys either lol
It's interesting and people's attention is so fleeting and I just recently went through another situation that was going in the right direction and then she just went nuclear on the situation. People have so many perceived options and at the end of the day some of the connections I have made would have never happened without modern technology but by virtue of that I also lost those connections a large in part because of the technology.
I just now saw this. Sometimes I'm on HIVE more than STEEM and Blurt.
I certainly can see what you are talking about with guys trying to waste your time acting like a potential client for photography or something when they were really trying to get closer to you for a date.
I still go back to the whole thing on if someone is "using" someone and how that relates to sex. As a man if I'm not getting the woman off multiple times compared to how many times I'm getting off I consider it a sub par performance. So if the woman is getting off in my opinion that is in a way and even trade. Then the time spent when two people are hanging out and having sex is an even trade in some respects. We could dive on a deeper level with that and come up with scenarios where one person's time might be more valuable than someone elses but for the most part let's say that's an even trade.
I think from my perception it would be an intoxicating drug to be a beautiful woman and get the attention and essentially having men willing to expend all resources to be around. I'm not going to lie I think it would be hard to manage.
As a man that has some level of success with women that would be considered beautiful by the mass majority of the population I can tell you this and I have thought about this for a long time. There are so many options that it certainly becomes too great for most beautiful women so sort through it all and to figure out what truly would be best for her. It's impossible to know but since the options are of such high caliber and especially for these women in college you would think that after dating a handful of guys and sorting through their best options they would have arrived at something fairly stable but I see it all the time this isn't the case. I just think it is too many options and women aren't going to starve without a man in a place like the United States so depending how they are feeling that day they can go forward with it or not.
Also it's hard to sit there and tell a woman she really needs to select her best option by the time she is 23 and ride or die with that situation. Personally I think most women would be best off by doing that and I feel that most women are playing out their options way into unnecessary overtime but I 100% see how it happens and why it happens.
For a man to come along and fuck her better than any other dude and be on a higher level than the other guys is a tough task overall. I've ran up on this a lot of times myself where I have to have so many elite facets to my game it's mind blowing. And let's be honest with ourselves. We can say I'm lucky but also I have put in an insane amount of work to arrive at this point. It's exhausting but most dudes are straight up starving out there and just deleting themselves. This past weekend hanging out with friends from the past I was informed about a couple more suicides.
You realise ppl fall in love right hahaha women don’t just select from options and think about what makes sense or even half the time have the mental capacity at that age to know what they are really choosing they just feel love / a connection and hope for the best at that age. Just as men struggle, women struggle I don’t know why men think they struggle but all women should have it all together and find and pick the very right man for them by 23, 2 years after a persons brain has fully developed hahaha. Someone can even want to ride and die but if the other person doesn’t want to it’s a done deal and they can’t force them to ride and die with them. I think it’s a silly attitude myself to expect men to take ages to figure it out but women should do it all by a certain age. That also relies on them picking someone that also also has it all together and picked exactly right at 23 it’s not a one side and done. For a woman to marry a guy at 23 and let’s assume they are both 23 that relies on two ppl not one.
I think you’ve read a few too many red pill blogs or know some rly weird women. No genuine woman wants the best fu** or the richest man they just want to fall in love and it be reciprocated. People are putting focus on all the wrong things these days imo. It’s all become very materialised. People don’t marry someone because they are good in bed else everyone would want to date a porn star it’s just not what most ppl care about. Sure they want to feel a sexual compatibility but they don’t want some porn king haha it’s about so much more. It does seem more difficult these days for ppl to stick it out tho for sure even in marriages and engagements it doesn’t mean much anymore
I get what you are saying about deciding from a lineup and anyone can do whatever they want. I just think there is a major misalignment of what people want and oftentimes it isn't based in reality. One of the common things I see an insane amount of women here in the United States saying is they want kids but biologically it makes no sense for when they are saying that and then I have seen a ton of women wait until its way too late.
Unlimited Options and unlimited time and I see all the time where they think they are going to snap their fingers and the guy they always dreamed of will be right there solving all their problems.
As far as love, I feel that men catch feelings and fall harder than women because they don't have as many options. It is often the women leaving the man. I have experienced this several times in the last couple of years. I would continue to spend time with the woman but they torch the situation. They usually come back around but sometimes not because they have so many perceived options.
And it isn't that I have necessarily watched too much Red Pill stuff or any of that. Honestly a lot of that content sort of confirmed the reality that I had already experienced throughout time.
I know when it comes to the sex component and the physical compatibility component that is the reason several of the women came back around full circle and reached out to me again. I know that because they said that.
Statistically things aren't looking good out there with relationships and marriage. Ultimately birthrates are dropping in a lot of countries. This disconnect between men and women seems to be causing a lot of people to be very unhappy.
I just think it’s up to each individual it’s not rly up to a guy to decide when a woman is happy to settle down or vice versa. I think a lot of ppl would love to settle down and be with the right person but if ppl settle young without truly falling in love just based on someone being available they will almost undoubtedly divorce later / stop having intimacy pretty early in the marriage. You see this a lot I know ppl divorce quicker now / single longer but how many ppl int he past were truly happy ? I think you would be surprised how many ppl in relationships have sex like once a month. Is that really a happy relationship? I think it’s up to ppl these days they can just settle for who wants them earlier or they can take the risk of leaving it and keep working on themselves till they can attract true love. I often wonder if those who find it rly young did a lot of work on themselves in past lives or something as it seems so easy for some. Pretty much all my friends had their first child around 40 so that’s never been something I’ve seen as a block really but it is down to priorities at the end of the day some ppl are infertile so they will always have to explore other options like adoption. For me it’s always been about connection and I woudl rather wait till 60 than be in a relationship with someone just for the sake of settling down. Hopefully it works out with my current partner and I don’t have to as we do have a strong spiritual connection but that hasn’t always meant things worked out! I think if you truly love someone it becomes less about age, how you have kids, looks, money and any of these things as the love comes first and you work around the rest. If ppl prefer to just not hold out for that type of spiritual love that’s also their choice tho. But I think everyone has to do what makes them happy. I have a few friends who settled to have kids and they are absolutely miserable now and defo on brink of splitting. I don’t think it necessarily makes everyone happy to just stick it out.
I do agree with this current disconnect man and woman hating tho it’s a bloody joke. People are just so judgmental over one another these days I blame social media and dating apps. I’ve always refused to use dating apps as I think they are ruining society myself.
It is interesting as I’m British and I’ve actually dated two Americans weirdly and they do complain more about women than how I see women so maybe it is a bit different there. My bf does always think women leave: sends me all these articles of women leaving their nfl boyfriends and it’s just not the reality I see here it’s mostly men that run at 3 months when they fear commitment after initially making all the promises in the world. I saw so many beautiful, intelligent friends go through those cycles endlessly! I think dating apps don’t help as ppl can have one argument and they are on there the next day re instating their profile. It’s something I rly value about my guy as Altho the distance is difficult and it’s not been smooth at all he rly never gives up and is stable in that sense something I’ve truly never experienced with the guys here. They are mostly commitment phobic and only rly end up chasing ppl who are not that interested in them as it’s more exciting. I am in a capital city tho and it’s full of foreigners it’s prob totally different out on the smaller towns. Most my friends at one point were models, intelligent and loyal and struggled like hell to find loyal guys. None were going for rich guys either lol
It's interesting and people's attention is so fleeting and I just recently went through another situation that was going in the right direction and then she just went nuclear on the situation. People have so many perceived options and at the end of the day some of the connections I have made would have never happened without modern technology but by virtue of that I also lost those connections a large in part because of the technology.