Elite Monk Status Update (It's NEVER Going To Be Enough Guys)
I already knew this and a lot of you likely already figure this out as well but you are likely never going to have enough status, be rich enough, be jacked enough, be handsome enough, drive a cool enough car, memorize enough bible verses, have cool enough tattoos, or recite enough Anchorman, Zoolander, and Superbad lines to obtain and retain the women you really want and who you feel like you deserve on a looks equivalency scale.
There might be a 1 or 2% chance some smalltown girl hook armed you in High School and for the time being you are still together. For the other 98% of guys out there either you have given up or on this constant climb to become better which will oftentimes get you scraps in countries like the United States.
I'm not here to complain about the situation. I want to provide my findings through my observations and talking to guys all over the country and the World about the current dating dynamics.
Everything we do in this world is to obtain and retain women and the attention of women. A lot of people will fight tooth and nail in an attempt to dispute or deny this but if a man has normal testosterone levels and is active they are driven constantly by this.
Guys will even say they stopped pursuing women years ago and couldn't be happier. Then you realize they wrote that in the comment section of a RedPill YouTube video. They aren't happy or at peace with the situation at hand.
In the United States the mass majority of situations are a date down like the picture above. You could have your health and fitness on point and what you attract is likely 2 or 3 notches below your looks equivalency. This is the shocking reality but I have experienced this many MANY times first hand.
Suddenly you are the clear and obvious Apex Predator and you are getting the half smiles from the morbidly obese women.
The women are able to get away with poor health here because the government will support them and men are forced to be extreme scrapsexuals. 🤢
Why I Went Elite Monk Status
Me and one of my friends in California both got to a point where we knew if we continued to encumber our time with the women we were trying to talk to it was going to burn too much time and we wouldn't ascend to the level we would if we just dialed in. It's risky because you are losing time and your age will further and further hurt you as time goes on.
Some guys will lie to you about this and say to just focus on your grind and some dime piece chick is going to fall in your lap. That's almost never going to happen. You still have to be presenting yourself a certain way and putting out content and showing up places where there are women for there to even be the slim potential for anything to occur.
If you are the guys who is over 6' tall, athletic, have abs, are funny and personable and the whole bit the women will at some point find a way to derail the situation the majority of the time. Ask Tom Brady and Brad Pitt.
Can you imagine being an active player in the NFL and the undisputed GOAT 🐐 with objectively good looks and the chick still isn't satisfied and is even cheating on you with her Jujitsu Coach?!?!
In my experience I get better reactions from women when I'm 210lb or even 205lb. In the picture above I was 211lb. The issue is I have more throwing and hitting power at 220lb but my jawline isn't as sharp and my abs and taper aren't as good. I have tested this with the women.
So I'm out here getting very legitimate hitters out bossing out and earlier in the spring to get my shoulder in shape I trained to throw the javelin and entered an open meet and crushed the competition so these guys who are primarily 21-23 years old haven't arrived where I'm at around here. The hitters who are primarily 25-35 are getting out.
Even at the point you are winning the Olympics or are in the MLB or you are Superman himself its not necessarily going to convert to getting with the women you want or having a family with some hottie.
There were dudes winning multiple Olympics with a great look like we see with Andreas above that seemingly didn't get married and sort of disappeared from existence.
Superman himself appears to be single and said he plays video games like 4 hours / day.
So What About The Success Stories?
I have asked all my friends at various times and one of the guys I recently asked who is from New York City said none of the guys from High School or College ended up with a chick where people are giving the nod of approval and it seems to be a good situation. NOT 1 🤯🤯🤯
Same thing when I look at it myself for the most part. There are a couple situations where I can say it is a decent situation but most situations are a severe date down or ended in a divorce or custody battle. Just pure carnage.
So What's The Solution?
Guys I speak from experience here. I'm not some dude who didn't put in the work and has no receipts.
So what was wrong with these chicks? Well the chick with red hair basically was a meth baby and had addiction issues. She was saying weird stuff right off the bat about how some guy was trying to sex traffic her up in Chicago. I was like WTF? Then she admits she downs bottles of cough surup at her job at Dollar General to get through her shifts. It was going to be a major cleanup job on that chick even though she was hot.
The chick pushing me in the shopping cart in Miami kept going on about Pete Buttigieg and even had a shirt with him on it. It was weird. She also secretly smoked cigarettes but despite all this I was still dealing with the situation and ultimately she got super stressed out and stopped talking to me. In these situations you have to go no contact unfortunately which may or may not work in 2024. Recently I had a chick who cut me off come back around.
We are all just trying to adapt to this hellscape and I didn't grow up saying I was going to become an extreme savage when I grow up. This is just the situation we are in.
Usually when they are a looks equivalent there are MAJOR issues.
A lot of women are looking for a lifestyle sponsor / sugar daddy and a lot of chicks have turned to whoring themselves out. I'm not trying to say its right or wrong I'm just saying that is what's going on more and more.
I have had several women joke around about needing a Sugar Daddy. They Aren't JOKING..... in reality they want me to drop a precious bag of Dogecoins on their head just for existing.
I have never directly paid cash money to a chick. I get why guys do though because they are trying to overcome the gap that other guys might be presenting in the way of looks, physique, athleticism, status, height..... etc. I get it.
I'm honestly not trying to player hate on the guys leading ultra heavy with their wallet.
I have just had to adapt to this reality that a lot of dudes are paying cash money to these chicks that 30 years ago would have been your girl next door from a good family. Now they are selling themselves. It's just the reality.
GeoMax
My experience in Canada last summer was eye opening. I had a higher level of traction up there with a higher tier of chicks. On average the Canadian women are hotter than American women. The same goes for Australian women.
Why didn't I stay up there? I thought about it. The one chick that I could have really see a future with was trying to pit me against some dude who supposedly had a penthouse in downtown Toronto. I called bullshit on it and told her there is a reason she was bringing me in late night. Homeboy wasn't getting the job done. He just had deep pockets. Told her if she went that route her kids are getting cut from 8th grade basketball. 😂
Imagine pulling up in a Bentley in a foreign country and fucking the spirit out of her multiple times to where she is saying she has never been that wet in her entire life and I still lost traction.
We are all ruined in a lot of ways from this current dating climate. Should have been a lock. 🔒 Not anymore!
I know what you are thinking? Maybe Brian's game isn't that good? I have played devils advocate with this one and the overall statistics paint a bleak picture for many countries. Birthrate implosions, high suicide rates, the lack of sex getting so rampant they are reporting on it calling it a sex recession.
Also I have made a lot of anecdotal observations and when I see 95% of hot female college athletes always single I know there is a huge issue. Why isn't the hot track girl dating a stud puppy on the track team? Well because I entered the competition and blew everyone out and drove away in a Bentley and then went city to city locking up professional hitters on the baseball field. But I'm too old. But then that jacked 6'3" firefighter doesn't have blue eyes and there is always and issue and nothing is ever good enough.
Social media has really made people think there is something always better out there and I'm not trying to point fingers but a lot falls back to the women because they get a 1000X the attention of a man with an equivalent look. They are often the ones pulling the plug on a situation or marriage. The statistics show this.
I think my best bet to GeoMax are places like Poland, Croatia, Montenegro. I think if I go to Germany or the Netherlands it will be fleeting traction. If all that fails I would be better off taking up residency in Canada or Australia in comparison to anywhere in the United States. This is based on real world experience.
What Should You Do
I think anyone reading this should seriously consider trying to essentuate your X Factors. For Instance I don't grow facial hair on my chin because I found that the dimple in my chin is an X Factor for me.
Then plot course to live overseas where the women are more attractive on average and where the mindset might take us back a couple generations. The women are on a weird woke journey in the United States. Most men aren't going to find that to our advantage here.
"Settling" here is likely to be a severe date down because most of the legitimately hot women wait until they are aged out or suddenly way overweight to lock themselves in a relationship here. They would be way better off just picking a dude they are into when they are 21 but the chicks who generally doing that here are picking a dude who is 23 which can make sense. They generally aren't looking for guys in their 30s even if you far out play the competition here. If she stays single she isn't going to starve and she can rack up hundreds of thousands in student loan, auto loan, and credit card debt so she is going to get by without a dude around.
That's why if you build yourself up as much as humanly possible and go to where the women are way hotter on average and you can vastly out play the competition it would stand to reason the friction is going to be less.
I would say the sooner you get out the better. Looking back on it I should have pulled the plug in my 20s but the reason I didn't is because the best baseball is played in the United States so that has partially kept me here but more and more International opportunities are presenting themselves st this point.
I would say completely giving up isn't a good answer because you have to pick your vices in this world. If you aren't getting that dopamine rush from sex you will have to overcome it with some potentially unnatural way like drugs.
In a lot of respects this environment of staying on it has kept me in way better health than most who either gave up or packed it in early and settled for the scraps.
I think for men and women the place you start to get somewhere is when you stop being anything for anyone and just be yourself. Real people like real people I think and a lot of the time we are so busy trying to fit a mould or become someoen else we don’t realise being ourself is the most powerful then that in itself is an unlearning process to shift off all the layers of conditions and things we thought we had to be.
Pearl thinks Uk has worst looking women and hottest guys so to move to Britain as a woman. It made me laugh when she said that.
The only people who are truly happy in my opinion are the people
Who have a true spiritual connection, that’s based on true connection and being best friends. Material stuff and looks is going to get pretty empty pretty quickly Altho I understand someone wanting someone fit and healthy and when they are for sure. Most the red pill and mgtow guys got cheated on and are bitter. They look at one or two billionaires getting hot much younger women and think that that applies to all guys. Even if they did get it these women are likely not there for real love anyways and these same guys will then bitch about the woman taking their money or cheating on them and go from red pill to mgtow. Then feminism has gone wild these days too. It’s really become men hating women hating men hating for the most part rather than seeking to connect. I think the world is defo going through a bit of a connection crisis. I don’t think all this online dating helps either.
I obviously don’t know Tom and Gisele but most women would understand why she left as men and women are not the same. A woman doesn’t care a bit if he is good at football what she wanted was his presence. If the rumour will was true she tolerated his busy lifestyle and him being away all the time for the future hope that he set a date when he would retire and spend time with them as a family and she could maybe pick back some of her work and passions too ( remember she was more successful than him before she had kids). He went back on that from what I read. I actually get why he did he was prob addicted to the adrenaline of the sport the fame etc but she wasn’t and I completely get why she had had enough: most women value quality of time far more than they would value someone being an elite athelete. I actually think Gisele was genuine and just got tired of having a distant relationship. My bf is American and it’s funny as he has the exact same story about Tom Brady etx and I don’t think he gets it either. Because you guys value sports stars you don’t realise it’s meaningless to us in a love relationship.
Brad Pitt is a bad example as that was clearly his karma for cheating in his first wife and publicly humiliating Jen. It’s one thing to leave but the way he did it was pretty bad.
I have a lot of thoughts on what you wrote. Thank you for replying to the post. I just haven't gotten to the comments on here until now.
The first thing I would say is in general things are more misaligned now than in other times in recent history. People try to point to the 1950's but that isn't a good example because of all the men lost in World War II. Taking into consideration dating apps, instagram, and other social media men and women both have to compete against the entire world not just others in their immediate area. Seems like that's not the case but I have had this conversation with men and women and it isn't uncommon to have some sort of digital pen pal of a person you had a near miss with but then stayed in contact with and follow their stories or communicate online but still haven't ever met them. I also have these with women I hung out with 1 or 2 times and we are friendly but we don't live in the same place but know things might be different if we were in the same place but haven't had the conversation of trying to uproot our lives to be in the same spot. All these remote connections wouldn't have happened as much 50 or 100 years ago. These all drain our time.
I have also changed my dating app setting on something like Hinge to other parts of the world to test the waters. This has been insightful in some respects but for the women on the other end you could say it wasted their time at the moment.
I agree that the red pill and mgtow crew have went through various situations of either frustration of lack of success or they got cheated on or other things and a lot of them haven't done the work to be in shape or do anything interesting with their lives. For myself I have looked at the statistics and have tested a lot of situations and also am fairly good at sizing up the competition and also have listened to a lot of women vent about past relationships and all that to me.
I do agree there is a connection crisis because every single person you evaluate you will go through all these mental gymnastics to figure out if a situation will work with a particular person before ever even meeting them. Then if you do eventually meet the person there might be other differences to work through.
The situation of being real love vs just wanting their money honestly stretches to every level of society pretty much from my experience. If a man isn't improving a woman's life and continually ascending she will likely leave if she thinks she can do better or is better off on her home. Now that could end up being a miscalculation.
I have seen a lot of women try to defend Gisele on the whole Tom Brady situation which honestly seems pretty weird to most guys because you can't play at a high level like that forever and the fact that he had stretched it out that long was miraculous itself so we are talking maybe a year or two more of playing potentially. I have seen that situation play out a lot in baseball. Chick gets with the guy who plays baseball but then he decides to retire to work a regular job and provide more for her and then she gets bored because he is always around and isn't the baseball player anymore that the kids are getting autographs from.
It's tough to use the celebrities as examples but they are people we both have knowledge of.
In regards to Peal thinking the UK has the worse looking women and the hottest guys I can see why she might say that. The UK seems to be a real tough dating market. I haven't been there but ran across several UK women in Thailand and one was cool but most seemed very bitchy and acted as if they were royalty. It was weird.
Pearl has really done herself a disservice in some respects because even with all the supposed awareness about men and women she is playing things out too long and everyone is a joke to her. I was talking to her for a bit on Instagram because she is from Chicago and I was going to drive over there and meet her for a date but it never happened. So even guys who would seemingly be a good pick for her she isn't ever getting anything going with anyone and then it will make it tough because whoever she does try to date will get put on blast and her audience would have their opinions about the guy.
Going all the way back to the first thing you said about "just be yourself." A woman can sort of rely on that by just existing and not getting to fat. The bar is pretty low for women. Just don't be way out of shape and be nice and smile some and then they will get 1000X the attention of a man with an equivalent look. For the guys we have to build up far more than previous generations. The whole hoflation goes like this. You have to be 10X more than your grandpa to get a woman 5X worse than your grandmother.
There is certainly some truth to that for sure.
I disagree about women a lot of people
Mistake attention with love and they are not the same thing at all. It’s actually more common for an attractive woman to struggle than an average looking woman, take it from a photographer who knew a lot of attractive women they all
Struggled the hardest because it’s difficult for them to separate attention from love /
Feelings. A more average looking girl let’s just say that even tho I hate focusing on looks probably knows when a man makes a move he is legitimate about building an actual relationship. I think it’s much harder for attractive women to work out men’s motivations and decide who is genuine. They then just get really jaded from meeting all the idiots. Sometimes in life I think being average is possibly the best scenario for love.
The dynamic of an attractive woman is interesting because there was a time where a woman wouldn't know she was attractive and would be very subconscious thinking she wasn't pretty. Now that is less likely because while in the past guys might have been afraid to talk to the pretty girls now they can blow them up on Instagram and leave all kinds of comments about how she is so hot. That really changes the dynamic from the jump.
I think another issue is so much of a woman's look is a fabrication with all the makeup and fake eye lashes and then women are going so far as to get the Brazilian butt lifts, lip injections and all this stuff so people have become very confused about what beautiful is. Men in general have to live in the reality but yes there are hair transplants, and these radical procedures to lengthen guys leg bones to give them that extra height which is pretty insane in my opinion. In some ways that makes more sense than a chick getting a Brazilian butt lift though because she could have done squats, stepups, lunges, hip thrusters and spent the time in the gym to build her but up but a guy can't spend time in the gym to grow 4 inches when he is already a grown ass man.
I think you would be surprised though with the attractive women a lot of men would essentially spend all resources on them to keep them around so at what point is something love?
I have a love for these MILFs I have been with and we have an unspoken understanding that we were just hanging out and fucking around. They were just at a different part of their lives. We are still cordial and will sent each other Reels on Instagram and stuff. So the premise that a man was just using a woman for sex sort of escapes me unless he literally knew there was no way he was going to ever talk to her again and he went at it imagining he was doing someone else and she didn't get off and then he just took off after that.
Attractive women don't really fall into that category in my mind unless they are being extremely annoying to where they are becoming unattractive by nagging the man a bunch or saying ridiculous stuff. We can't really call a universally attractive woman a "Slump Buster" for really any guy. They would keep her around and keep going back to her if it made sense and was convenient. If he actually lives in another state then its hard to really work that anyway we spin it.
You inspired me to make a video on this topic lol
I just now saw this. Sometimes I'm on HIVE more than STEEM and Blurt.
I certainly can see what you are talking about with guys trying to waste your time acting like a potential client for photography or something when they were really trying to get closer to you for a date.
I still go back to the whole thing on if someone is "using" someone and how that relates to sex. As a man if I'm not getting the woman off multiple times compared to how many times I'm getting off I consider it a sub par performance. So if the woman is getting off in my opinion that is in a way and even trade. Then the time spent when two people are hanging out and having sex is an even trade in some respects. We could dive on a deeper level with that and come up with scenarios where one person's time might be more valuable than someone elses but for the most part let's say that's an even trade.
I think from my perception it would be an intoxicating drug to be a beautiful woman and get the attention and essentially having men willing to expend all resources to be around. I'm not going to lie I think it would be hard to manage.
As a man that has some level of success with women that would be considered beautiful by the mass majority of the population I can tell you this and I have thought about this for a long time. There are so many options that it certainly becomes too great for most beautiful women so sort through it all and to figure out what truly would be best for her. It's impossible to know but since the options are of such high caliber and especially for these women in college you would think that after dating a handful of guys and sorting through their best options they would have arrived at something fairly stable but I see it all the time this isn't the case. I just think it is too many options and women aren't going to starve without a man in a place like the United States so depending how they are feeling that day they can go forward with it or not.
Also it's hard to sit there and tell a woman she really needs to select her best option by the time she is 23 and ride or die with that situation. Personally I think most women would be best off by doing that and I feel that most women are playing out their options way into unnecessary overtime but I 100% see how it happens and why it happens.
For a man to come along and fuck her better than any other dude and be on a higher level than the other guys is a tough task overall. I've ran up on this a lot of times myself where I have to have so many elite facets to my game it's mind blowing. And let's be honest with ourselves. We can say I'm lucky but also I have put in an insane amount of work to arrive at this point. It's exhausting but most dudes are straight up starving out there and just deleting themselves. This past weekend hanging out with friends from the past I was informed about a couple more suicides.
You realise ppl fall in love right hahaha women don’t just select from options and think about what makes sense or even half the time have the mental capacity at that age to know what they are really choosing they just feel love / a connection and hope for the best at that age. Just as men struggle, women struggle I don’t know why men think they struggle but all women should have it all together and find and pick the very right man for them by 23, 2 years after a persons brain has fully developed hahaha. Someone can even want to ride and die but if the other person doesn’t want to it’s a done deal and they can’t force them to ride and die with them. I think it’s a silly attitude myself to expect men to take ages to figure it out but women should do it all by a certain age. That also relies on them picking someone that also also has it all together and picked exactly right at 23 it’s not a one side and done. For a woman to marry a guy at 23 and let’s assume they are both 23 that relies on two ppl not one.
I think you’ve read a few too many red pill blogs or know some rly weird women. No genuine woman wants the best fu** or the richest man they just want to fall in love and it be reciprocated. People are putting focus on all the wrong things these days imo. It’s all become very materialised. People don’t marry someone because they are good in bed else everyone would want to date a porn star it’s just not what most ppl care about. Sure they want to feel a sexual compatibility but they don’t want some porn king haha it’s about so much more. It does seem more difficult these days for ppl to stick it out tho for sure even in marriages and engagements it doesn’t mean much anymore
Omg I did not know that you could do that to grow taller what the actual f*** these ppl are seriously risking their health too with this stuff as god knows the long term affects. Thetr is now strong evidence even fillers can cause cancer because they block lymph drainage
Yeah the body modifications are INSANE! I just saw a thing about a 19 year old getting a Brazilian Butt Lift and to me the whole thing is so insane. Instead of doing squats, step ups, lunges and all that to build their ass up at 19 she is going to go through this ridiculous procedure.
And this is why we are living in the metaverse already. Someone can radically change their look with all the accessories like lifted shoes, push up bras for women, makeup, shaving.
Then they can radically change their look with all these invasive procedures. Face lifts, injections, Brazilian butt lifts, Performance Enhancing drugs, leg lengthening, hair transplants, people changing their eye color with lasers.
Then we have the digital stuff like filters and AI and photoshop. It's freaking madness in a lot of ways but that is what they feel like they must do in this ultra competitive unnatural world.
My bf is American it’s really not as easy as I thought it would be to close the gap it’s not an easy path that’s for sure. Especially when you have everything set up in life.
Yeah I could imagine that. It would be one thing if you were right out of High School or University or something but when everything has been put into place over the years it makes it tough.