I've gone through this very thing with friends, lydon, and I empathize with Abi. It's the dark side of counselling and can't be avoided. I like the fact that you two talk - Deb and I talk for hours and hours each day and we used to do that even when I taught - I'd phone her from work and often spend my coffee break with her. Ecclesiastes 4 9-12. You are her support.