Hello @lanniebrockstein, welcome again to this space that is yours too. I think the soul decides that. There is no law that determines a pair, the pair is determined alone. There are so many things that fall in love with the soul and so many that adorn it that it can be easily attractive and attracted to more than one in a definitive way in a life . They say that the soul mate is one and that they will search through time and space and will always find a way to do it. But the synchrony, the amazement, the acceptance of who he is, happens from inside and not from outside. You do not see it; You feel it, you dream it, you live it.