The first thing I'd recommend would be to NOT try to be everybody's platform. Communities are coming, and the one size fits all model fits no one best. Bespoke communities are going to fit most people best. PAL should aim for a particular market segment, and not try to fit all the outliers in. The rules should reflect that focus.

Without knowing the target audience, there's no way to set rules. However, as you can see, until you set rules, you're going to have folks really not fitting in, and turmoil and drama will result. We're at the beginning of the social media communities revolution, and jumping in to see if the water is fine is a good start, but as you note it's time to better define the parameters of the sea folks will be swimming in.

Also, Discord broke. Dunno why. I haven't been able to get in for weeks now. Maybe I'm banned? Never got any notice of any such thing. It just won't open anymore.