Hey, @dswigle.

Thank you for the condolences and well-wishes.

I'm finding out here that not feeling isn't working out—I think I have too much of my mom in me for that. :)

So, whether I want to or not, it is mostly emotion right now. I can think of 100 or more things that I or anyone of us involved could have done, and yet, I also know that I don't know all of what took place or could have been done, even my own part of it, so I am trying not to go down the road. As you say, though, coming up short when we're missing someone seems to go hand in hand.

You know what it's like then, and maybe even more so, since I don't even know if my mom was even being diagnosed for the onset of dementia/Alzheimer's, but there was something definitely going on there.

I agree about my dad. I need to find out more about what he needs right now. I wish my younger sister were living there, but that's his and her decisions, not mine. Trying to know when to suggest and when not to is one of the harder things right now.