Love & marriage 34 - Communication in your marriage
To communicate is to be able to express your feelings and ideas in a way that your spouse understands and clearly hears what you are saying and getting the message. There are 3 factors involved in verbal communication, speaking, listening and to understand what is said.
Examples of wrong communication are when you say something but your spouse hears something different. You phone him and ask: "what time will you be home?", so you will know when to have the special dinner ready that you are preparing for him. He hears: "you better not go to the pub after work for a drink, I want you to come straight home."
You say: I am going shopping, he asks what are you going to buy? just out of curiosity. You hear, "you are going to spend too much money again."
Communication if not just sharing of information and organizing your day, like who is picking up the kids after school? What time is my meeting? Couples who only share this types of necessary communication will find that after time real conversation dries up and so will the passion and love between them.
When you talk about communication in the marriage most people think about conflict. That is a very important part of communication to resolve conflict and problem area, but it should be so much more. Where there are good communication couples talks freely and openly. When things are good, express that freely and where concerns arise to be able to considerately talk about it and finding a solution.
Every one of us has different abilities and some people are better communicators than others. But it won't help a lot if you are a good communicator but your spouse is not. The good news is that communication is a skill that you can learn. As with everything else, It takes time and practice but it can be done.
In the next blog, I will go on to more specifically explain how to communicate.
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Have a blessed day!
@hope777
I often thought that communication is highly important. Although exceptions can be found, men and women communicate differently. In addition there are various types of men and women. As a man of feeling music and creativity I am more of a feminine man as I understand and value those things. There are feminine and masculine straight people in both sexes. We all communicate differently. Most of communication is non-verbal rather than verbal. I listen more to the non-verbal as it is more honest and authentic. I think God helps us to be better communicators.
I hope you are feeling better and healing. I am still praying for you. I have a few new posts out there you may enjoy reading one on life. Well take care and thank God for the good things he provides you. - Troy
Agree on everything you say, wise man. :-) Interesting that you say you listen more to the non-verbal. Something for me to look into. Thanks Troy, I will go take a look now.
About 90% of our communication is non-verbal. From how we sit, eye contact, move our hands or eyes to what outfit or colors we wear, what music we listen to when spoken to or what distractions we have. verbal communication is often edited from what we are feeling so it helps to listen to other signs. Again as always great content in your posts. - Troy
I love this! My partner and I actually broke off at one time because of misunderstandings. After we had a chance to spend some quality time talking (from general to just all sorts of different subjects) while visiting a city I have never been, we (well I mostly, I think) understood each other more and our relationship became stronger and we reconciled our differences.
We still have disagreements, but I am learning agree to disagree .
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Thank you for your testomony. I am glad that you liked it. And thanks for the resteem. Very much appreciated.
Interesting post
Thanks for sharing with us.
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