Choices, Contributed By @Olawalium.
Everything in life requires that we make some certain decisions about them. You want to go to school? You have to decide which one you are going to. You want to start a business and not work for someone? It is a choice you have to make. You want to start the job with other prospects in place? You have to make a choice. You want to go into a friendship or a relationship you have to decide with whom. These choices somehow alter the course of our lives and we have to choose them carefully. With the wrong choice, you would find yourself filled with regret but with the right choice, you can trust your sense of judgement and be happy.
I spoke with a friend yesterday and I know his story. He has had his fair share of heartbreaks and you can understand why he might want to take a drastic approach when it comes to choosing. Choosing a partner is completely different from choosing a fabric. With a fabric, you can choose to return it and ask for a refund or simply pick another without any emotional involvement but it is hard to do that with another human involved. You need to choose carefully and you don’t need to speed date to test people.
My friend told me he has eyes for 5 ladies and he is trying to streamline them or narrow them down. He has discarded 2, and he is left with 3 of these ladies he is watching; to pick an ultimate winner soon. I told him that is completely wrong because it would mess up with his feelings and he would feel numb and confused. Each of these ladies have different personalities so what he sees in one, he can’t see in the other two, and the sequence goes on for the other two. Whoever he decided to pick eventually, he would still see something lacking which he has seen in the other 4 ladies he left behind and he would be back to ground zero because he won’t feel satisfied and happy.
What usually happens when he finally make that choice is that he will begin to wonder about the adequacy of his choice. All the other options will withdraw once make his choice, obviously. He will begin to miss the aggregated company of the other ladies which will then make it hard for him to be committed to his choice.
…to be continued…
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@olawalium sir!
High confidence ambition and ego have always been a hindrance to the development of human values. We should follow a relationship whose thinking is positive. Our purpose towards relationships should be clear because choosing a partner is not the same as choosing clothes. There is no scope for negotiation or refund in relationships. There is a need to understand the importance of relationship to the living partner and the importance of relationships.
You have rightly spoken my mind, my friend. Thank you.
I think he is already in numb cosnif he has feelings for any of them, he wont date 5 girls at a time
Yes choosing partner is not easy. There is difference in choosing a fabric and a partner. Picking a partner for marriage is tough and it involves emotions, have a good day @olawalium
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Absolutely, emotions are involved and we need to do it with care and not sacrifice our values and morals for it.