Is there childish cruelty?

We all watched the childish cruelty, and maybe even were involved in it. "These are children, what can you do with them?" - you think. Many people respond to similar statements in the same way, society perceives it as it should and the process of counteraction stands still.

Let's try to dispel the social stereotype of child cruelty?

Children are not cruel! At least, not more cruel than we adults. Or do you think that the embryo develops in the mother's body, comes out into the light and immediately brings into it anger, becomes capricious and unbalanced? A newborn child is a clean, new piece of paper that absorbs everything that surrounds it to fill its perception and consciousness. There is zero information about social stereotypes, he does not know how to behave in society. Like any biological species the child grows and begins to adopt the behavior of others. This is a perfectly normal natural mechanism, and people in this respect differ little from animals.

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In the most part, it depends on the parents how the little man will form, what he will be like. The child, coming to this world begins to look at the behavior of his parents and starts behaving the same way as they behave. Where does the cruelty come from? Why do children begin to beat, tease their peers, show aggression, hysteria? All this is taken from the society in which these children grow up. The child has no other examples, except those that we give him - adults.

If the child sees a normal, adequate environment without hypocrisy, lies, violence, then he will behave normally, without showing cruelty towards others.

Our children are not more cruel than we are. There are many cruel adults, not less than children. The child has only one example - people around. And the model of adult behavior, he simply takes and adopts, and then we do not know and do not understand what is happening.

So where did the stereotype of child cruelty come from? We look at the child, who does some kind of muck, and we attribute to him the patterns, the victim of which became themselves. This is no less than hypocrisy.

The adult environment lies to itself. They are the source of the problem. They - form the child, give him the settings, which lead to negative, destructive, cruel behavior. It so happened that the child adopts models of behavior not all at once, but gradually. He has not yet learned to lie, as adults can do it. He has not yet learned to circumvent social restrictions, he has everything directly, he does not have other tools yet.

The parents of such children hide behind moral precepts, hide their direct cruelty, while the child feels and absorbs everything like a sponge.

The problem is not child cruelty, but cruelty of adults. Love your children and surround them with love, support and then they will not be cruel.