Sorry, dizzy, but love can be a feeling and don't we all think we are "in love" when we marry? Maybe not. Maybe we just want someone to love us and when it doesn't happen, then we stop loving our spouse. I do hope though if you have never been married, that you will consider your spouse first, but don't be a whimp and let him/her walk all over you. Once that happens, you might as well have married your worse enemy.