Say No When You Mean No
I found this quote in a book I was reading. I really loved it because sometimes people say yes, when they really want to say no. Know who you are; what you prefer and what you do not prefer. Say no when you mean no, and yes when you mean yes.
I much prefer to be told no than to realize later someone didn't want to say yes.
I use to set up group gaming events for a group to play together. Nothing rubbed me more raw than to be told yes when they really wanted to say no.
The real kicker was, I was 100% okay with them saying no. I was just the poor sap who was willing to set it up. lol
Needless to say, after a couple of yes's that turned to no after much planning. I stopped inviting the ones who did that. One of them had to nerve to act insulted when they were not invited.
You can't please some people. lol
You are right. I try to be a woman of my word. It is hurtful to say yes then not follow through. But it also hurts people too when they have a problem saying no, and they yes, and always follow through because those people usually don't get the same consideration from others and always get the short end of the stick. That is why it is always best to say no when you really mean no because letting someone down when after saying yes sucks; on the other hand, yes people who do follow through can get bitter when things aren't reciprocated and that sucks too.
What book is this?
The Colors of Hope by Richard Dahlstrom.
THIS. I am nearly 31 and I feel like just in the last year or so, I am finding my voice. Thanks for sharing!
I still have to take a moment and ask, is this something I really want to do? And ponder why the answer is yes or no. My husband has helped me become more comfortable saying no. Before him, I had some friends who took advantage of me. He helped me put perspective on it and separate people who need help, and people who want to be enabled. You're welcome!
Yes! I am such an empathizer, I typically reach out as a measure of sincerity, but I’m slowly learning that you can still be a nice and caring person and prioritize yourself! The relief is substantial!
Absolutely agree!
@originalworks please verify my post
I think originalworks always says No now. ;)
I know! That bot never verifies my posts anymore!
Maybe he is low vp now hehe good thing busy.org is there. but sometimes it don't upvote too. ;)
You are right about busy!
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