The six pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden
The higher our self esteem: the less we need to prove ourselves, we strive for higher goals, we are more ambitious.
- The more inclined we are to treat others with respect.
- The joy of life comes from being better than you were yesterday, delighting in the true joys of life, and not in comparison to others
- the joy is being who you are and not in trying to be better than someone else
-The Six Pillars
- The practice of living consciously
- Being present
- Living mindfully
- Our mind is our basic tool of survival
- Self esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves
- Behaving with accordance with what you see and know
- Discerning between facts, interpretations, and emotions
- Being concerned to know where I am relative to my goals and projects, and whether I am succeeding or failing
- Are my actions in alignment with my purpose?
- Getting feedback and receptive to new knowledge
- Committed to lifelong learning and growth
- Use sentence stems to become more conscious and aware of your life situation
- If I were more conscious, how would I treat other people?
- The practice of self acceptance
- Willingness to accept what you do, who you are, and what you enjoy
- It's not judging your behavior but merely accepting that your actions just are
- What is, is
- It's a matter of accepting and forgiving yourself for your unwanted behaviors
- Accepting what is, is the precondition to change
- The practice of self responsibility
- Embrace your responsibility
- Take self responsibility for your emotional and intelectual existence
- You are responsible for the situation you are in at any given moment
- No one is coming to save you
- The practice of self assertiveness
- Honor your wants, needs, and values and seeking appropriate forms of expression in our reality
- Leap into the game
- Express yourself
- Confront, rather than evade, the challenges of life
- Be kind and cooperate with others
- The practice of living purposefully
- Set goals and work towards them
- Live intently
- Living purposefully involves the following four steps:
- Taking responsibility to live purposefully
- Identifying the actions needed to achieve one's goals
- Monitor behavior to check to see if you are in alignment with your goals
- Paying attention to see to the outcome of ones actions to see if they are leading to where one wants to go
- The practice of personal integrity
- When your ideals and standards match- you have integrity
- Integrity means congruence
- Restoring integrity:
- Face and accept your reality
- Seek to understand why you did what you did
- Acknowledge explicitly to the other party what you have done and mention your understanding of the consequences
- We take any actions to correct our behavior
- We commit to not repeating the same thing again
- One must examine their life in order to determine if they are acting in a role that is in their best interest, questioning the assumptions and beliefs behind their actions
- If we examine our lives we will notice there is a discrepancy between integrity we practice in different situations
- The principle of reciprical causation: behaviors that generate good self esteem, are good self esteem
- Love tied to performance is not love, it is a form of manipulation
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