Hello Steemit, As parents we must understand our duties and responsibilities to our children properly and correctly

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As parents we must understand our duties and responsibilities to our children properly and correctly, not only half because half of the time before God we will be held accountable.

Including in terms of choosing a mate, our task is to take part in taking the agreement when the child has offered several choices as candidates.

Or indeed if there is indeed no match, we must also find a good match for him. But remember not to force, speak from heart to heart the reason that is in our minds.

However, what if the child is not yet matched even though he/she is old? Yes, it is also our duty as parents, to seek love to find a mate, not to suppress it so that the child sins. Nau'dzubillah

Because the real is not a few parents who are sometimes very selfish to their children, urging to match immediately without seeing what the child is like.

Especially when other people always ask "when is the marriage of their child, when can they get a daughter-in-law", now this kind of thing sometimes makes parents feel disturbed and rash feeling irritated, even though the match was arranged perfectly by God.

Strangely, sometimes parents think more about the feelings of others who often nag at him, rather than the feelings of their own children.

After all, for what is bothered by someone else's stupid questions, what is important is that our children do not violate God's rules even though they still have no mate, what is important is that our children are still in obedience.

Therefore, from now on we as parents should not be narrow minded just because there are classy questions from neighbors or other families.

What we have to see is our child, because at the moment when worrying about a mate comes to hit the child, who should be a sedative is the parent, give him a good understanding, not to be sad.

Parents should be the strongest back when despair begins to hit the heart of the child, not even more pressure on the child to immediately match.

Indeed we will be a big sin, when our insistence on children makes it take the wrong path, the path that Allah hates, like tempting or seizing people's husbands for example. Na'udzubillah

Because parents should be aware that their task is not only to guide them, to direct them, and to equip them with religious knowledge, but also to deliver good mates.

So, if you really want your parents to see their children match up, find him a good mate, give him a good understanding. Not only pressured him to immediately match up with a nonsense scolding.