Daily Dose of Sultnpapper 04/27/18> Is it really that hard… or are we just ungrateful?
I didn’t think that I would ever have to point this out but it looks I am going to have too. There are certain things that don’t sit well with this old man and I think it is time to bring one of them up and that would be lack of manners and appreciation.
I only belong to one writing group on steemit as of this moment so it isn’t going to be hard to figure out to which this is directed to as far as the group goes; but it should go for all groups as well and not just the one I happen to be in. Before I get to deep off into this let me just ask, why do we join groups on here?
For the majority of us it is to gain exposure, and with that exposure the chances are your payouts for your posts will end up going up as more people will be seeing your posts. The more people who see your post the more likely you will get some up votes, it doesn’t take a PHD to figure that out.
I also have another question, do you want the group you belong too to be successful and grow? That may seem like a stupid question to ask, but I’m not sure it really is based on some looking around that I have been doing. The answer should be, “of course we want it to be successful and grow”, if so then start acting like it.
Each of you are free to do as you like, and I am as well, I do know that when someone does something nice for me I thank them. It is just common courtesy that your parents should have taught you growing up. Even if your parents didn’t spend much time with you, I know that Sesame Street was good about teaching manners.
How hard is it to type “thank you”? It isn’t hard at all, thank you, thank you, thank you. I just type it three times in a matter of seconds and I am a hunt and peck typist. So please use some manners and acknowledge the fact the you appreciate when some does something nice for you and say, “thank you” and if you are truly thankful, up vote them as well. It’s not like you are reaching in your own wallet or purse and pulling out hard earned cash when you up vote.
What has prompted this little rant of mine is the lack of appreciation that I have seen from some of the members of our group when their own post is included in the official daily group curation recommendations. The woman who does this isn’t compensated as far as I know; she does it to help us members and the very least we can do when our posts are included in the list is to type “Thank you” as a reply to the notice that shows up as a comment on our blog post.
I looked at a recent publication for our group, there were six posts featured in that edition, so I went to each post and looked at the comment that notifies the blogger that their post had been selected, not a one of them had even bothered to type “thank you” let alone up vote the reply.
This isn’t some bot going through and randomly selecting posts to feature, there is a live person who takes her time to make sure that the best of the group’s works get featured; the least we can do is type “thank you” as acknowledgement that we at least noticed.
Those up votes that I mentioned that you have, that cost you nothing, it wouldn’t hurt to tag an up vote on the notice as well. It helps you in the long run because those earnings go back into the group account. The more the group earns the more the group has to give back to the members. This isn’t rocket science folks; it is common sense that should be going along with common manners.
It wasn’t just this one particular list that prompted this rant, I’ve been seeing this for a while, and today just happened to be the day I decided to say something. Normally there are only a couple of the posts that don’t acknowledge the notification comment, but even still that is too many in my eyes. If you are truly here to help you and the group start showing some appreciation and manners.
Alright I’ll get down off my soap box, and if I happened to make you angry with this Daily Dose, so be it. I didn’t call anyone out and I won’t; there isn’t any need for that. If you are angry now after reading this, then the chances are that you might want to practice typing “thank you”.
Until next time,
@sultnpapper
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Thank you.
Well, your post did make me angry. But not at you. I am a serious believer in 'Thank You' as a social lubricant and as a business strategy. It's so freaking simple and so few do it. I most usually try to remember to say thank you in every comment, because the person that wrote the post spent the time to do so.
OK. I'm done too.
THANK YOU!
I may not always say thanks in every comment, especially when it is a person that I have frequent dialog with, although I should, but I do make it a point to thank people that are infrequent visitors or new ones whom I've never had stop by before. Sometimes it takes as much time and effort to compile a good reply to a post as it does to write a crappy daily dose that I've been known to do from time to time. So my manners aren't always up to speed, more times than not they are and I do thank people.
It is just the correct thing to do especially when the news they brought you has a benefit for us, and I have just not been seeing the "thank you" used and that just doesn't seem to be the way we need to be going.
So thank you for stopping in and giving us your take on it as well.
You are also the beneficiary of a Tamper Monkey misfire up Vote, enjoy the extra dinero.
THANK YOU for pointing out our horrid lack-of-manners in this day and age! I was always taught: "Please!" • "Thank you!" • "Yes, Ma'am" • "Yes, Sir!" go a long way to making people feel special. 💖
You are most welcome Ma'am, people can criticize the southern folks all they want but they won't find any people more polite than southerners. Might need to start a "Southern Charm School" by @sultnpapper and give lessons , like the coders and programmers do.
Great words on mannerisms!!! I shared this so others can get on board with proper ettiquet (spelled wrong sorry)...
Thank you @deadgrlsuppastar for taking the time to read, comment , and share. I may not always be right or correct on the stuff I post but I know I am correct on this one. We need to show appreciation to those who make this work on here.
I've still been recovering from being sick but I always make an effort to respond to people. I was featured in quarators members post last week and i made time to comment upvote and resteem!!! In the defense of others tho they may not have gotten notified. Some people are still clueless on that..
It isn't the group you mentioned , and congrats on being featured. Each post that makes into the daily featured whistle stops gets a message that the post has been selected and it is in the comment section of the post. So there really is no defending it with the group I am speaking of unless they never look at the comments they receive on their posts, which I know is not the case since the group is centered around engagement with each other through comments on posts.
I think what people also miss in this is that if someone who comes across your post by chance for the first time or that is the first time they see the daily whistle stop notification if it is not acknowledged it might seem like it isn't anything special or important. I always try and leave at least a one or two sentence "Thank you" so that someone seeing it says to them self, "This person is excited to be included in what ever this whistle stop thing is, I need to go check that out too" and then they follow the link and see all the featured posts. So there can be a benefit for the whole group that were featured that day. But even if that doesn't happen at least the curation person was thanked for their effort, which they should be.
Thank You!thank you.. thank you!
But I won't belong to anyone, or groups... Even if I end up creating the group...
Welcome , and Thank you, and I hate to break it to you, you are already in a group. I also heard you are the leader of the group. I think the name is "Luv him and hate him @sultnpapper group", membership is real low right now, might have to do a membership drive in the near future.
I do agree with you a simply thanks is the least some should do
I have to admit though I know that may have been at least once when I was feautured and I was busy and didnt get time to pop to the post to leave a comment of thanks, if the notification came up while I was on the train or something like that.
but for the most part I always try to leave a note of thanks and the least and in general reply to most comments i receive
I know the scenario that you just explained can happen, and like I said, normally a couple don't respond with a "thank you", but I pay attention to things like this and when it hit six of six not even saying, "Thank you", I had to speak up. I don't want to see that becoming the norm. I would like to six of six saying thanks as the norm, because it is good manners and for another reason that I elaborated on in a reply to @deadgrlsuppastar , so you can see it there, rather than repeat it in this reply. Thanks for weighing in on this.
I just read your other reply and I do agree with your point, as I sad I try to always reply but I know I must miss some on busy days
but 6 out of 6 is bad for sure
Agreed, bad for sure.
I think manners died with common sense. The lack of manners and politeness drives me absolutely crazy. When I say Thank You to someone, I don't expect them to grunt an acknowledgement. I don't expect a gum-chewing teeny bobber to answer the phone when I phone into a law firm or a hospital. Or worse yet, folks here answer their phones with "Talk to me!" If I send gifts, I expect at least an acknowledgement that it was received and not lost in transit. So, yes, @sultnpapper, I understand your frustration. Thank You! for saying what needed to be said!
Well if it hasn't fully died it sure is on life support and I only know CPR, so I'm just putting out the call for us all too pay attention and be a little more polite and grateful. Thanks for dropping in and backing me up on this, thus far the response has been pretty positive so that is encouraging.
Common sense hasn't died, but it is no longer common.
Trust me, I'm a doctor.
I liked this rant, i know exactly who u are talking about and she is basically a saint in my book! When i was posting she was always so helpful and she even always found time to reply to my thank you messages. Saying thank you is so easy, i just don't understand why people have such a hard time saying it!? Good post my friend.
Thanks Hippie, good to see you making your way back around here. Drop a post every now and then and let us know what you are up to while you are regrouping your life. There are a bunch of us who have been missing your interaction on here with us. Peace brother.
THANK YOU!!! Well said!! I have noticed the same issues and it stinks! It only takes a second to let someone know you appreciate them. I'm really enjoying your "rants"! Thanks.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read comment and agree. Come back anytime, you are always welcome here.
I couldn't agree more with you about the importance of thank you's. It's a 2 second gesture that goes a hell of a long way.
I do a similar curation poat on Mondays for newbie resteem day and it always brightens my time on Steemit when I see those I've featured come and say thank you and drop an upvote. On the opposite side - when no one comments back it is very discouraging and I think why am I doing this? lol
Anyways thank you for sharing this important message about common respect.
So you know first hand what the feelings can be on both ends of this situation, thanks for sharing that and lettings us know. It really is just common courtesy that is slowly moving away from common. Thanks for dropping in and sharing with us.
You're welcome! I am glad to see such a great response to your post :) makes me feel like there are kind people out there still
The response has been pretty positive so that is a good sign, thanks again.