Can one treat one's self like an object?
Or isn't it more like giving one's self for someone you trust and love?
In BDSM settings the gift is more like the one giving and the true holder of power and control.
Can one treat one's self like an object?
Or isn't it more like giving one's self for someone you trust and love?
In BDSM settings the gift is more like the one giving and the true holder of power and control.
Hmm. Good question. It’s not easy, but with enough detachment I think one can treat oneself as an object. I practice this sometimes in complete submission and surrender. Detached from all outcomes, even the fear of death, maybe for a few moments. But it’s hard. We are wired for survival and our stories of individuation are deeply wired to support that biological drive.
And yes, the giver in such a setting is ultimately the one in control because they can safe word out at any time. Although I guess that’s true for both parties.