My Life's Journey - Where the heck have I been? Part 1.

in blog •  21 days ago

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Well, to be honest, my amazing Steemian friends I do not know where to start with explaining where I have been for the past 5-6 months? So many things have happened in my life. I have faced some of the greatest challenges in my life. And, after my last basketball season, I thought it was a great set-up for the best summer ever. But, instead, it turned out to be one of the most tiring and exhausting summers in my life and it did not stop jet. Challenges, blind-sides keep coming and have been taking hit after hit and it has taken a toll on me both physically and mentally...

How It All Started?

Well, as some of you know it all started with my father having big health problems in which we did not know if he was going to make it through. For 3-4 months it was a battle to get him better. But, the biggest battle was not in hospitals but when he got home. To make him realize and change things which led him to the situations he was in. And, my friends, my father is an extremely stubborn man. Getting him to change things in his life was the biggest battle of my life. Constant fighting with him. Every single day. Trying to change 40-50 years of bad habits in just 4 months was no easy task. And, during those 4 months, even though I managed to change him and get him well I forgot a very important thing.

I "forgot" about MYSELF. I forgot to take care of myself. I was trying to be "STRONG" for everybody. Because it is who I am as a person. I was so focused on helping him I ignored everything else. I ignored my feelings, I ignored my body, and I just focused on getting my father well again. To be honest, I was not experienced or prepared to deal with the situation I was in. But, letting my father part this world early was not an option for me.I was going to do anything in my power to get him well again, and I did, but it came with a cost...

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Because focusing so much on it created many problems for me now. And, that is why I was so absent from Steemit, made some bad decisions about my basketball career, and pushed my body further mentally and physically than ever before. And, it has left a toll. It has left a toll I am dealing with now. It has left a toll of unprocessed emotions, pain, stress, which I have shoved deep down so I can focus on helping my father. To be honest, I was inexperienced, caught off guard, and did the best I could to deal with the situation I was in. I was ticking bomb waiting to explode. That toll has to lead me honestly make some fast and stupid decisions about my basketball career which in turn lead to more stress, and more challenges I have to deal with now.

In my next post, I will tell you all about what happened in Morroco and how it all added to my stress levels. I am a fighter and I will never quit on myself. I honestly believe all this will make me a stronger person, and a better person. Things happen sometimes in life so you can learn from them. Get better, stronger, and build yourself back up. Sometimes you just don't get answers right away, and you just have to keep fighting, and crawling out of the "pit" you have been thrown in. No matter what, keep crawling. And, that is exactly what I will do.

"Sometimes in order to get strong, you need to be weak."

Thank you all for reading, have an amazing day, much love,

dbjegovic 💓💓💓

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Happy to see some activity on your blog, my friend.

Sorry to hear about the struggles with your father. I know there are many people who can empathize with your situation. I think you've acted admirably. Parents do so much for us, and we hate for the time to come where we have to take care of them, but I'm sure you've done a great job.

Can't wait to hear more about what you've been up to. Best wishes!

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Hey brother. It sure had been a long time. So many things have happened in my life and just had to focus on it all. Especially, when it comes to my father. His well being was my priority. But, it has left a toll on me. It was just inexperience from not being in this situation in my life. It all turned out good, but now I have to focus on myself again. Because I forgot about taking care of myself during those times. Many lessons to be learned from this periods brother. Many, many lessons I hope to share with you guys.. :)

Thank you for an amazing welcome message brother. It has been too long. :)

Have an amazing day. :)

Great to see you back blogging again! I went through a kind of similar crisis with my own father, many years ago. However it wasn't a sudden health emergency - it built up over many years, as he got high blood pressure, then diabetes (Type 2), then glaucoma... from my mid-teens I was worrying about him, and trying to urge him to eat a more healthy diet. I was accompanied by my mother and sister in this - in fact, my sister went on to become a doctor.
We were never really successful in getting Dad to eat better, but what I think was more important was that his attitude changed. He took early retirement and then got a great self-employed career. He eventually became less stressed and took on hobbies that he loved. He was almost 88 when he died, and we were so grateful that we'd had him around for all that time, despite his health problems.
I increasingly wonder whether there were other reasons behind the deterioration in Dad's health, like iodine deficiency, which I suffered from and thankfully treated, or maybe he shared my intolerance to cow's milk. Sometimes it's the people who soldier on without complaining who fail to recognise serious health conditions.
I hope your father's health continues to improve.

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Well, I completely understand what you are saying as my father is a very stubborn man and to get him to realize he needs to change his life upside down was an everyday battle. I mean every day I had to fight his bad habits to help him realize he can't keep doing what he is doing or next time similar things happen could be his last things.

I honestly had to scare the crap out of him so he realizes the situation he was in. And, thank God, on the main things I was able to influence him and he changed a lot of his ways. He still has some bad habits, but I will take it. It is not easy to change 40 years of bad habits and not taking care of himself.

And, I completely agree with people who soldier on. I did the same and it has created many problems for me. Ignoring problems, emotions is definitely not a way to go if you want to have a happy and healthy life.

Thank you for such an amazing comment and for sharing your story with me. I truly appreciate it.

Have an amazing day. :)

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Thanks @awakentolife! Parents can be so stubborn... that's why we love them. You have a great day too :)

Good to see you back man!

I hope your pa' is better. Sometimes we have to give to others so we forget about ourself. Enjoy your journey and stay strong!

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Thanks, brother. I appreciate the encouragement. Hopefully, I can keep it up and keep writing. :)


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Thank you, Oleg, my friend. :)

So happy you're back!!! And remember what I told you in DM ❤️

Those are the thing that are important now ... Take your time!

It is nice to see that things are well enough for you to come back again and I hope they become better and better with each passing day. You were missed honey 💚

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Things are getting better and better and I am glad I have more time now to reconnect with you guys. I have missed you guys as well. :)

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