Fighting the Battles You've Already Won

Do you agree that our childhood experiences determine our destiny? I do and I do not. Our decisions alone draw our destiny. And if we are not aware of the forces that drive us to a certain action or decision, then most likely, the inner child in us is leading the way.

You are not what you think you are. You are a micro-universe that has a hidden wonder. Such wonder is a secret even to yourself that you have to discover if you want to take control. You are possessed by an inner child that seeks expression and resolution through your current experiences. This child is so innocent yet very powerful. This child doesn’t make sense to our cognition but still control our emotions. He or she has to die.

The most important years of our lives are the first 7 or developmental years. It is the time that we act like sponges, absorbing everything that we sense from our environment. We do not have a conscious mind to evaluate rationally. We just take everything that we see, hear, smell and feel as real, until these sensations mark as permanent. And that becomes our truth, our reality and worst, it could be our destiny.

As we grow up and develop a conscious part of our brain, we can start to rationalize outside experiences and determine what’s right and wrong. But as a general rule, we get the value or evaluation of something by comparing it against another. Where do we compare our current experiences? Nowhere else but from our beliefs that stemmed from the sensations that we absorbed during childhood. Therefore, it looks like that we are a product of our past environmental influences.

We’ve seen people who have a personality “bond” - bond with betrayal, violence, ego, selfishness and aggression. Why do they seek betrayal when they have been betrayed in the past? Why do they love violence if they have been a victim of one during early years? It’s because intense emotions, no matter how negative or painful, can program our minds to believe that it’s pleasure. There are also some who bonded with success, happiness and love. What makes these people special? The answer is… early childhood programming.

We are human beings gifted with free will and choice but genetically, our brains are designed just like in a robot. We can be programmed. In fact, as a child, we have no choice but to be programmed in accordance to our environment. We are not forever a child. We won the battle of growing up against time yet we are still fighting these battles that we’ve already won.

So, how do we kill the monster child in us? Forgive yourself and start living like a new child, acting like a sponge in well- chosen stimuli from your ideal environment. Talk to yourself as if you’re a VIP because the most important conversation that you have is the conversation with yourself.

You can choose yourself. Create your destiny. Live free.

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