How to be sociable!

Although it may seem that some people are naturally more sociable than others, the fact is that all humans are sociable, and as with any other skill, it is possible to train you to be more social. Read this article to know how to get out of your comfort zone and improve your social life.

1- Be less critical. People who call themselves "antisocial" tend to constantly criticize themselves and those around them. They avoid social interaction, because on the one hand they are afraid to be judged by others, and on the other (ironically) they are very critical of others. In order to become a more social person, it is important that you accept that everyone, regardless of what may appear abroad, has both positive and negative qualities. What separates people who trust themselves from people who are insecure is the attitude they have toward themselves. Self-confident people tend to focus on the positive qualities of themselves and those around them, while the insecure (antisocial) people focus on their own shortcomings and the shortcomings of the people they know.
Make a list of your own positive qualities. Be sure to include both external (physical) and internal (intellectual, emotional) qualities. Get in the habit of daily remind yourself of your positive qualities, and of countering every negative thought you have toward yourself with two positive ones.
Stop referring to yourself as introvert, shy or antisocial. The more you use those words to label yourself, the more you are going to reinforce the idea that you are incapable of interacting socially. If this idea frightens you, remember that your perception of others does not depend on them, but on you. If you want to become a more social person, start by believing that you are and you can be a social person. Remember that being sociable is an option, not a predisposition.
He accepts that human nature is good. Although there are many bad people out there, it is important that you accept that human beings can be loving, kind and tolerant. Believing this will make you want to meet new people instead of avoiding them.
2- Do not analyze your interactions too much. Thinking excessively is usually what prevents people from enjoying social interaction. Although it may seem difficult, it is important to break with the habits of anticipating what your social interactions will be and analyzing too much once they are over.
Instead of focusing on what can go wrong and how you can look ridiculous, approach each new social interaction with a new account and a positive attitude.
As you reflect on past interactions, focus on the positives rather than the negatives. While it may not have been the most memorable and exciting interaction of your life, try to identify a good experience of every interaction you have, even if it is something simple like having been able to make someone laugh.
3- Realize that you are not the center of attention. Surprisingly, shy people who feel invisible and unloved also tend to feel that they are the focus of attention permanently, and that others look at them and criticize them. This strange paradox of shyness is what keeps people from feeling comfortable with themselves in front of others. This does not mean that you should feel like a person of no importance, but rather, that you must recognize that you are your worst critic; the other people are just too busy to be judging you and constantly criticizing you.
Remember that people are so trapped in their own lives and interactions, they have little time to notice if you make a fool of yourself, say something stupid, or do not see the best of you. Even if they do, it is very unlikely that they will worry much as they have their own problems to solve.
Recognize that everyone, to some extent or other, feels the same way you do. Even the most sociable people feel insecure and worry about embarrassing situations, the only difference being that they decide to take the risk and enjoy themselves instead of worrying about how others will react.

4- Maintain a positive attitude. Everyone wants to be around people who are fun, optimistic and happy. Even if you do not feel positive all the time, at least you must act positive when talking to other people. For example, if someone asks you to tell them about your life, focus on sharing the positive qualities of your life instead of complaining about negative ones.
Making your life sound positive will instantly arouse people's interest, and they will want to know more about you.
5- Take note of what people might like. It's hard to remember what each person you've known so far likes or what their interests are, so when you go home, take note. Investigate properly and when you meet them again, talk about them. You'll be amazed at the friends you'll make with just learning what they like. It may seem difficult and time consuming at first, so start with your classmates or colleagues.
Remember not to let yourself go. For example, do not go so far as stalking the person on social networking sites. The fact of knowing how was the last party of Barcelona and who will play the next date is more than enough. In addition, the person will continue the conversation, so you do not have to worry about reaching a dead end.

tips

Being social does not necessarily mean being friends with everyone. It is impossible to please everyone, and it is more gratifying to have a small circle of close friends, significant, than having a hundred mediocre and superficial friends.
If you feel that you do not get enough social interaction, then consider acquiring a new hobby (join a local club or sports team, or volunteer). Be sure to choose something that involves interaction with others.
Remember that you must always try to be yourself and not someone you are not.
It is best to keep your personal points of view, such as religion, politics, abortion, etc. out of the conversation, unless the person you're talking to is really interested. Even then, try to keep your point of view extreme for you. These topics rarely lead to a pleasant conversation.