RE: Letting Go of Anger (a “How To?” question, not a “How To” guide)
Well i can say that i feel you on some of this, i was bullied really badly all through primary school (from around 6-12yrs old), chased home from school most days of the week, beat up, drinks poured over me, food rubbed in my face, taunted made fun of. they would wait at the end of the street for me when i would walk to school.... it was pretty horrible stuff. And way too much to delve into at the moment.
For me , i spent quite a lot of time pondering the reasons for this happening to me and what drove these children to act this way... there was a gamut of emotions felt going through this situation and afterwards.
i vowed if i was ever given power of any kind i would be responsible with it, i would help those who i see suffering the same or similar situations. i would be the force that deals with those doing harm to others. I was fortunate enough to be able to do this, as i grew older and wiser i managed to make an impact , not through violence but psychology, well maybe a little threat of violence thrown in when needed.
I am now 38 and while i understand what the driving factors were behind these kinds of behavior i cant say i agree with any of it. But searching for the answers has given me a greater perspective on life , people, society and much more. When we cant change the situation (like our past) we can change how we perceive it.
Its not about digging a hole to throw the emotion into, deleting it from the mind, these actions just make it come out more fierce for me. it is about learning to accept it as part of who i am and knowing that it shaped me into the person i am today, every experience has let to this very moment, and all i can do is be the best version of myself i can be. i recently wrote an article regarding this available here if you are interested.
The truth is there is no one way to overcome this, we are all individuals, we can research different methods, read many books , try different ways, etc. but ultimately we must take the elements which work for us and design a program which is custom to our individual needs. There is no one size fits all.
I have managed to tame the beast, but to be honest.... im always angry
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Most times that’s how I feel too - it’s been tamed but it’s there and I’m always angry.
Good advice to think about why people acted the way they acted - maybe that will help me understand it if not accept it.
I will check out your link now. Thanks again for the thoughtful comment!
All we can do is the best we can, as long as we are trying we are improving. Like i said we are all individuals, so we must find our own path, but if we are open and honest with ourselves and others we can share our experience sand help one another find our own best ways :)
Much love, hope it helped out a bit :)
It did, thank you very much for taking the time to reach out with your thoughtful words 🙂
no probs mate, much love in your direction :)
Anger is part of being human.
BTW: Getting angry at one's self for getting angry is one of those odd paradoxes that defines life.
I am so mad at myself that I got angry. harummmppphhhh!
I rarely get angry when bad things are done to me, but I get angry when I see the same thing done to others. What really ticks me off is when people engage in activities which undermine the people around them.
The big anger I have at the moment is that Conservative Movement appears to have undermined the Tea Party. The Tea Party was right. There was something wrong with both the corporate bailout and ObamaCare. Conservative pundits undermined the debate around these issues. The result is that the movement failed to come up with alternatives. Conservatives got people to hate ObamaCare, but they do not have an alternative. It is infuriating because we could have a better health care bill if we had a decent health care debate.
Since you've started writing; you've probably figured out that anger is useful.
A writer can analyze their anger and come up with interesting insights.
A writer can quickly realized how misdirected anger hurts people.
I think it is possible, as a writer, to focus anger on an issue to highlight an injustice. This technique rarely works. The anger creates an echo chamber.
The subject of how anger creates an echo chamber would be an interesting topic. It wouldn't work well on SteemIt as SteemIt favors short articles that focus on a single topic.
I've been trying to figure out how to expose the dangers of partisanship. Partisans gain power by creating anger against their partisan opposition.
That is difficult to expose in a SteemIt post, but can be exposed in longer format writing.
Anyway, I think it is great to analyze the things that makes one angry. As a writer one can explore the direction that expressions of anger take. It usually leads people down dark paths.
Thanks for the feedback and the thoughtful comment, @yintercept. Sounds like you and I share some "triggers". It was helpful for me to write about this, and I do intend to continue.
Sometimes thinking about what makes me angry and trying to analyze it just makes me... angrier, heh. But I suppose you have to tackle it sooner or later.
Thanks again for the reply!
When I write about things that anger me I get depressed.
Those culture war articles I put in my feed really make me depressed.
I keep feeling that if I can just figure out how to express to people who get too caught up in the left/right split that it is the false dichotomy of the split which is destroying us and not the opposition on the other side of the divide.
The war is the thing that is causing the misery ... not the soldiers in the other army.
So, what I am hoping to create a set of arguments I could use to help people diffuse the political tension that is creeping into their lives ... but if I do it wrong, I will just increase the tension.
Yeah it’s certainly a dilemma. I have had to make choices on whether or not I would engage a friend or family member on certain topics. The advice I was given was to only say something if I could say it out of love. I am not there yet. Anything I say would be out of anger. So I stay silent while I work on myself.