Interesting dilema! I have seen first-hand what happens to parents who implement full-on voluntaryism parenting, and the result is kids who are an absolute nightmare... completely self-obsessed kids who are an absolute nightmare to be around. I highly recommend treating parenting in a different way to that in which you treat adult interactions. Children's minds are not fully formed. In my opinion, they need guidance in order to reach the level of maturity they need in order to interact with someone on a voluntary basis successfully.