Why I promote positivity

Listen, I've read the jokes about me on here and saw the humour, and whilst I laughed at most them, and others not so much, I feel I'm due you an explanation as to how I've came to the premise of thinking that being positive is such a critical element to a healthy and fruitful life. Because you guys are my audience and I owe it to you!

There's a common perception everywhere that those that teach positivity don't know what the fuck they are actually talking about. And it's true, most, or if not all of the people that sit there and tell you to 'be positive' are talking out their arseholes, they really are. How can you, right? Because you can't just 'be positive' out of the blue, and only you are an expert of you.

And no matter how many awesome stories, or lovely little bullet-pointed checklists on how to overcome the shit in your life I write I'm still never going to understand the struggle that it is every day for you, nor will I ever pretend to.

I know though that I've walked a very dark path during my life, one that was fuelled with addiction, womanization, objectification, manipulation, stealing, extortion, shit man, I could go on forever. But the hard fact is that I've been in deep dark places before, some of you would go holy shit that's bad, others would say pah, that's nothing.

I set up a local charity last year with a colleague that I connected with over the internet, lovely chappy he was, and some of the stories he would tell me about his childhood and the system sent shivvery white fear down my spine. I know I whine about my life, but this dude made my childhood look like a bed of fluffy roses. And here he was trying to make the best of his life in the best way he could. He was at a good place in his life. And we made a good bash at it. He had looked at his life and swapped his focus.

And it's what I try to do with my writing. It's really not a case "oh, my life is awesome right now, why can't you be awesome too?" - truth is it took me ten years of continually looking inwardly for the cracks and trying to find a solution to my fucked-up-ness, and, it's not been an easy journey, lots of tears and dashed dreams and switched hopes. I'm continually breaking myself and rearranging those pieces.

And I know that a few paragraphs from me isn't going to change a lifetime of continually falling into turds everywhere you step, it's just not. Because life just doesn't merit that. You can't get up one day and say, "Hell, I'm awesome! I rule!" because after you say that I bet you a million dollars that life will throw all that shit back in your face as soon as you start to think about it.

But I hope it makes you think.

If I just encourage one person to think from what I write then I'll be a happy man. One person. Read something and think, holy shit, that's me. Maybe I should think more about this. 

It's how life went for me.

I met a lovely man about 12 years ago, and he's still a friend now. He always thought I had more potential to do great with my life than I already was doing with it, but I was closed to suggestion. Wouldn't have it. Really wouldn't. But we both got lucky one day.

I had fallen for a girl who I found out was just using me to get what she wanted, it was always the case with me at that point in my life.

"I'm such a nice guy - why won't these girls date me"

And he said - here, read this book. 

And that book, it literally changed my outlook on life.

And a couple of months later I had the pivotal moment that spurred all that I had learned into action, getting help, looking inwardly, et al.

So I don't come to you like, "Oh, my life is great now, yours should be too" because my life is far from perfect, hah. (We have so many troubles going on!)

I come to you as - please read this, if you can relate, have a think about it! And that's all I ask :) I don't pretend to be a guru on anything, and my reputation on Steemit is no reflection on authority on any subject whatsoever, and neither is anyone else for that matter.

I see you guys as my audience, and as far as I'm concerned you guys are far more important than what I have to say,

And that also brings me to the point if anyone wants to see me write on something, just ask. I've had a request from @travelista so far, yet she never got back if it was helpful, or not - please do :)

But for now, I have to go get dinner,

Please be well :)