Liking yourself is an act of rebellion

I read a beautiful post last night from @mammasitta – you can read it here: 

And it had me thinking. Liking yourself is such a rebellious act in today’s climate. If you show even the slightest happiness in doing, liking or being something awesome then people shoot you down as egotistical, in it for the likes, me me me, conceited and/or arrogant.

Why is it so? 

Why can’t one take pride in what they do or feel? It’s not a bad thing. 

I’ll tell you why, 

Because in the same way positivity breeds positivity, negativity breeds negativity. 

Think of a time when you were hurting. You probably wanted to share your hurt, right? And sometimes when you see others succeeding at what you weren’t then the feelings of anger and jealousy would more than likely creep in. 

This is natural. 

So if it happens to you don’t feel bad.  

It happens, and no-one is perfect. 

I often feel bad when I see the excessive hatred on YouTube, I see it, I watch it unfold in front of my very eyes. 

Someone makes an excessively positive video about giving food and money to homeless people. I mean this is a humongous act of generosity and selflessness, don’t you think? 

And I see comments like, 

“They’ll only spend it on drugs” 

And I get sad. Not because of what is said but from the place that it comes from. To say such a thing, to judge so harshly without the proper details on such a beautiful act of kindness, is heart breaking. 

Because I know people judge life mainly through their own looking glass. And by saying that means they wouldn’t trust this person they don’t know, and through that, they don’t trust themselves. 

Don’t trust yourself? 

Then you don’t love yourself. 

I trust everyone I meet. Why shouldn’t I? They’ve done me no harm, yet. 

Until they prove my trust-o-meter wrong, then I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt. 

Because I give myself the benefit of the doubt. 

Because I know I’m human and I’m prone to mistakes. 

Hell I’m prone to mistakes lol.

So the next time you’re about to stir someone’s shit up, think to yourself, 

Why am I doing this? Is it to make the person feel bad? What purpose does this achieve? Only to make them feel bad? Or something else?

If the result is only to make the person feel bad, then ask yourself, 

What does this achieve? 

Nothing. 

Never do ANYTHING that achieves nothing. That’s a waste of damn time. 

Perhaps think more nice thoughts and leave them a welcoming comment or a little bit about your experiences. People can learn from that!

And perhaps things will start to change internally

Change starts with you my friend. 

Change starts with you.