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RE: Why doesn’t my boyfriend pay attention to me? How can I make him more attentive and loving?

in #advice7 years ago

One of the best posts .. People are in need for these type of posts , coz these things happen to every relationship , gf/bf need to understand there is a difference between the thinking of men and women ....like the one i will discuss on like staying connected to eachother via phone but it creates problems like...
If you ask your boyfriend to text you every hour on the hour, nearly everyone on planet earth would consider that unreasonable, and therefore too clingy or needy. We expect that our significant other can go more than sixty minutes without our attention. An unwillingness to go more than sixty minutes without our attention suggests instability, low self-esteem, and/or entitlement and a desire to control. None of which would be desirable qualities in an intimate relationship. Some requests are inherently unlikely to get a positive response. It doesn't matter how sweetly or calmly you ask to be texted every hour; you're gonna get labeled clingy and needy.

It's hard to know what requests are generally considered reasonable and which are generally considered unreasonable. A negative reaction doesn't necessarily mean you were being unreasonable; maybe he's the unreasonable one. Maybe you're both being reasonable, but you just disagree. In this case, I don't think it's bonkers to want to talk to your sweetheart every day, and I don't think it's bonkers to prefer every few days .may be you should wait and keenly observe what to do and what not. You have to find a better path or ions on which both agree....that wud help alot.

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Indeed, there is no book of rules of how should a couple live out their relationship. However, when there is harmony things flow. And if one week it feels good to text every hour and on the other week once a week, then it's fine. As long as they both remember that love comes from within them and reflected by their partner.
Important words, mate 👍

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