Excerpt: Dreams are really not that complicated. With some practice, everyone can and should explain their own dreams and I hope the examples I publish here will help you do so. Often the message in a dream is very clear and gives us the answer for something that has troubled us and has preoccupied our mind for a long time. Like in this example when the dream says – "find the inner strength within you, not in your girlfriend".
I was separated from my girlfriend whom I still love and she still appears in my dreams, something that drives me crazy. The dream starts when I receive a phone call at home, I answer and it's the ex's father. I say hello but get confused a few times about his name until I manage to get it right ("Jacob"). I go to the kitchen and give the phone to my girlfriend, but she says that she wants her private time. While I am waiting I slice a roll. What does the dream mean?
The dream reveals to you the reason for separating from your girlfriend. First, the dream begins by establishing the connection between you and the wise and older part of you (symbolized by the father of the ex). This part wants to give you a message so that you understand why you separated, do the inner work and move forward in your life.
The separation took place because your partner wants time for herself so that she can find the loving inner part within, her true self, that wise aspect, for the sake of her spiritual growth (symbolized in the dream by the fact that you give her the phone).
You, on your part, are not part of her spiritual path. It does not mean that you are not a spiritual person, but that your ways as a couple, at the moment, are different. The dream also means that you are feeding off of her, nourish yourself by her love for you, by her attention. (Symbolized by the roll). You have to learn to stop this feeding because it interferes greatly with your ex's well-being. She knew that and needed the time for herself!
Feeding off of the other, by the way, is one of the prominent reasons for breakups in relationships - people are not able to feed themselves from within and demand their spouses to nourish them. The latter, naturally, cannot do it all the time, for a long time, and therefore feel guilty, exhausted and energetically drained. Such situation cannot last and people feel that they "can't handle it anymore" and choose to leave.
Two days ago I dreamed again about her. This time I was in emotional distress and I call all my friends and family and no one answers. Then I decided to call my ex even though I knew I should not, but I felt that only she could help me. But she did not answer me either. I woke up, in the middle of the night.
This dream also speaks explicitly of how you feed off of her (and others). You need attention, love, support – else you're in great trouble. In the dream, no one answers your call and the message is clear - you must find and trust your source of inner nourishment. No one can give you from the outside what you cannot give yourself from within.