I think you are right, I think true love is the one that wants the best for that person without having to be with her/him I mean true love always want the best for the other people even if that means to let them go, thats why I think true love sometimes hurts, the ideal and the difficult thing is to find true love in both ways... And when you do, you have to be prepared to suffer sometimes too, kind of complicated but necessary at the same time because I think everybody needs to truly love to grow spiritually