What is Anger?
As I was typing my post last night, I had a bit of a revelation about what anger actually is. You know how sometimes you know something intuitively but you lack the words to describe it. Then as you attempt to express it, you begin to find the words.
I mentioned this in my last post but I want to try to be a little more concise about what anger is rather than focus on my own story.
The ego wants control over its environment. It doesn’t understand its interconnection with its environment and so it attempts to or dreams of dominating over its environment. This can be expressed in a huge variety of ways, some of which we consider sick and twisted, others of which are considered normal. We basically tend to get angry when we are dissatisfied with something that we feel is out of our control. Some of us only get angry at those who can directly influence us, while some with a greater attachment to the ego will get angry even at those who have zero influence over our lives (“that just ain’t right!”). They believe the world should be a certain way and get angry that it is not.
We are desiring something which we fail to properly express.
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We think that’s how things SHOULD be. We fail to accept the way things ARE. Therefore we can only make a haphazard attempt to change things, as we do not recognize and appreciate where it is that we are standing. If you type an address into your phone, but your GPS is broken and you don’t know where you are, you may have a very hard time getting where you are trying to go.
A functioning GPS requires some levelcof recognition and acceptance of where you are actually standing. Without it, you can only blindly move forward, hoping you are going the right way....which often leads us to become more lost.
When we are angry, it is an emotional blockage that is bursting through
This may allow the emotions to clear up and the blockage to disappear, but if we don’t fix our thought pattern, we are likely to run into similar emotional blockages in the future. By focusing on what it is that we don’t want, and how we don’t want it, we allow emotional blockages to form. We need MOVEMENT and believe that we aren’t not moving.
For most of us, this patterns go hand in hand with our upbringing. As children we learn that we need to accept things the way they are, but we are not taught that our experiences reflect what is inside us and provide us indicators and teach us lessons. So we have a mistrust for the universe, believeing life just HAPPENS to us and it is only compounded by the expectations put upon us by our loved ones and by society. Perhaps we are something outside of their expectations entirely. We aren’t taught how to deal with that, we are encouraged NOT to deal with that, and so our growth is stunted, we fail to move in the direction we wish to move in, deterred by fear from an early age and over the years we fill up with emotional blockages.
As soon as you accept where you are, you slowly begin to realize that you are free to leave, or at the very least, you are free to turn where you are into something closer to what you want it to be.
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I apologize, these thoughts are a bit unorganized. I will likely rewrite this post in a few months once I get my metaphors clear here. You are welcome to comment and help me find the best words to describe what I am trying to describe. Perhaps you’ve read them somewhere or perhaps you thought of them yourself, either way, please comment with your thoughts.
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Confessions of the Damaged - a collection of short stories
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by @skyleap
There are 3 parts to your psychological make up first off is your identity which centers around your primal impulses, pleasures, desires, unchecked urges & wishes. Then you have an ego which is concerned with your conscious, rationality, morals and the self-aware aspect of your mind. You also have a superego which works like a receptor for your identification & it is this that is responsible for enforcing the moral codes of your ego. Your superego is supposed to suppress your impulsive cognitive actions within your identification. It's within your superego Not your ego that you may require a bit of anger management training for or may not. It largely depends on how it affects your life remember of course that nobody has an easy life. If you were getting into strife for your temper then I would say let's have a look at treating you for it. Are you sure though that you are not just what I call curt or blunt. Because if it is just that then I would say you have a healthy mind.
Anger can be also a constructive weapon.
For instance somebody wants to take a away your sammich, but you don't want to give in so you level it on the most basic way and anger his ass down...
It does take a while to fully grasp a concept doesn't it? Then one day, you just "Ah!" And your hand and the keyboard are like a magnet.
Emotional blockages: really glad to have read that, because like you, there's something I've been turning around in my mind - how productive is it to go into our wounding? Stated as you did as emotional blockages and clearing them, that gives me some more to add to my own thing I've been turning around in my mind. :)
As soon as we accept where we are, then we can move: YES! So true. I think our greatest debilitator is resistance. If we don't resist anything, we're free!
Good fuel for my own post. :)
Sorry for the late reply!
I think going into our wounds is necessary for healing them. In chinese medicine, you always massage the are that hurts in order for things to flow better. At first I worried “is it safe to massage there” and while sometimes the answer is no, it’s usually yes. You’d be surprised at how resilient our bodies are and how much physical pressure they can stand, it’s not verycdifferent when dealing with emotions.