Reflections and guests
We had visitors for two days this week (no, not this guy here 😆, fortunately or unfortunately). And as has become a tradition, we spent one of the hottest last days, with them at a pool, and so we managed to cope with the heat, even without feeling it much. Despite the constant danger of fires, which threatens the surroundings, the settlement and the house in which we live, including.
Today I realized that living here feels like a trap by me. In the winter, I don't want to go anywhere because, even though the last few winters have been mild, it's ugly and unphotogenic outside, and I can never handle the cold, no matter how bad it is or not. I can't wait for summer to come. But when summer comes, then I can't go out either. It's not just that I've been uncomfortable with not having an income for quite some time now. But because I am afraid of fires around that may affect the house. On the one hand, I want to get out of here very badly, but on the other, while I'm here, I want to be able to keep some things, something that I can take with me in a hurry, at the last minute.
Recent events in the country have proven that the state is once again useless in fighting fires, protecting houses as well as people, the disaster notification system does not work and people in most cases have to deal with everything themselves. Yet that's another topic.
So, we were at the pool. I will not start the topic of how expensive the entrance ticket to such places has become, that is another topic again.
These people are friends of my partner. We see them once a year. Because they live in England. At first I thought I got along well with them, mostly because they live abroad. But that was before we went on a trip together, which turned out to be just a vacation - it was the occasion for a post called The easiest way to ruin your relationship with acquaintances - by going on a trip with them. 😅
Still, I kind of get along with them, despite that incident. They show understanding when we discuss the situation in Bulgaria, but they are already so far from it that they literally do not care and cannot enter into my situation. Which on the other hand makes our communication somewhat pointless. At least for me. And maybe that's why I spent my time at the pool quite lonely, deliberately avoiding going into the pool and staying alone on the sunbeds.
Not just because of the meaningless communication, actually.
Like last year after I lost my job, and now, when it's still impossible to find another one, the woman in the couple tells me the same thing - you shouldn't stop, you just don't have time, your time is running out... Every time she makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong or just not doing anything. Although I have not stopped looking for work, knowing that my time is running out.
That's why even that day, under the strong sun, talking to these people, observing them, their behavior, mindset and way of life, their characters and so on and yet their life so well developed in their favor, I was literally frozen in my mind projecting the footage of my own life. My life flashed before my eyes, as they say.
And I asked myself the question again: how did it get here? I don't have a clear answer to that. And perhaps no one can tell for themselves how it got here when we talk about adverse life events or an adverse situation that threatens to become permanent.
I had recently read about an Englishman living in Spain. He was an English teacher, fluent in Spanish. But due to ill health, he ends up on the street. Literally in a few years, 2 or 3, everything collapses and his life fails completely. Can this person say for sure how it got there? Because I certainly can't say that about myself.
I sat and thought about my life while my partner and the couple were at the far other end of the pool. In front of me was the kiddie pool and I absentmindedly watched the kids inside until I noticed someone on the other side looking at me. It was a good-looking man who had come here with his children. Well, there weren't many people for watching this weekday at the pool 😆, so I understand his interest. But then I thought about it.
I stood alone pondering my life and looked as if I could not swim and was afraid of water. Because, face it, going to the pool and not getting into the big swimming pool would only mean one thing and exactly that.
For a moment I considered getting up and going into the pool. I'm a good swimmer, maybe better than all the people around put together. But how did I get to the point where I stopped swimming?
Then I gave up. Isn't that really what has always weighed on me - that people tend to see in me what I can't do rather than what I can do. I was never enough for anything. I have a university degree, but not the right one. That's why this education never helped me at all. I could never qualify as an accountant or any other more specialized profession. I never got around to learning programming because it wasn't for me, even if it was lucrative. And despite the many other positives and virtues I have or could have, I'm busy trying to prove that I'm good, that I can, that I know... I'm really tired of it. Especially when I meet people (like these now) who tell me how they hunker down at work in England and wait for the work day to pass or play pool waiting for the same thing while I struggled with physically impossible tasks under incredible stress, ruined my health, only to be subsequently fired.
Well, yes, because I'm in Bulgaria.
I have to admit that for a while now, maybe a few weeks, a month, I really haven't been searching as hard as I used to. And this is because I realized that the main problem is that I continue to be in Bulgaria, where everything is quite distorted, even perverted in that sense of the word for something that is beyond distorted, so distorted that there are no words to describe it.
So maybe the woman in the couple is right. At least as far as Bulgaria is concerned. But that doesn't mean I've really stopped. I'm just looking for other options. Somewhere else.
In the evening we had dinner out.
I didn't take pictures of the pool because, like I told you before, I expect my phone to leave me at any moment, but I didn't hold back from taking pictures of the alien I show you here and all the other things in this restaurant we sat down at.
I was here two years ago when I photographed the alien for the first time, but unfortunately the photos from that time were lost due to my other faulty phone. And knowing that I might never come here again, I took these pictures. Because I think this decoration is genius. Up to some extent.
The restaurant is called "Mars" as the second picture shows, although it is written in Cyrillic and I guess incomprehensible to most of you.
But because of the locals' way of speaking and other reasons, I didn't know it was the planet Mars before I saw the alien quite by chance, hidden way back, in a remote garden and at another end of the establishment.
The rest of the decoration I'm showing you is quite controversial for me personally. First is a poem (also controversial) (did you read it?😅 Very bad translation. It should rather be: Do not put water on my grave. In the other world I don't want to wash. And if I rise from the dust, it will be to get drunk.) by the local communist poet who committed suicide at 28 - I've told you about him before as well.
Then part of the history of the creation of this communist city with all its communist symbols.
At first I thought it was just made for tourists, you know, to show something exotic to outsiders who would come here, not everyone has seen Stalinist architecture for example. But then I remembered - what the hell tourists? So who will come to this pushed place, this hole? As we approached the restaurant, I saw the locals looking at us. They are so unused to seeing foreign people that they know well who is local and who is not. And then how they stared at me and laughed while I was taking these photos... No, this is not done for tourists, because there are none here. It's some sort of twisted tribute to the city, even a tribute to communism itself.
With this last photo I show you, of Comrade Georgi Dimitrov, the greatest communist figure in the history of Bulgaria. With the inscription in it, this time only in Bulgarian: I am proud to be the son of the Bulgarian working class. A lot can be said about the local people here and why they are so strange and above all, why I don't get along with them and can't find a common language - how to find a common language with irradiated communists? But this is another topic, although related to everything I have written so far.
I still wanted to show you this particular decoration, after all. 😃
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Finding a job is truly an amazing quest. Soon there will be an anniversary - a year since my company has not paid me a salary. Of course, under such conditions, I decided to change the place of work, but for various reasons I persistently took up this matter only a month ago. Just so you understand, there is no problem finding a job somewhere in a bakery, as a salesperson or as a driver. However, my goal is to find a qualified job in some serious company. Having studied the most suitable options for me, I settled on three companies. None of them refused me and all said that I am suitable for them, but it is necessary to wait. This wait has been going on for a month and I have a sneaking suspicion that I will not wait for anything.
No way, I have proven it on my own experience about 10,000 times.
I have to tell you that I was even surprised when I found out that you are working, even that your plant is still functioning in this troubled time. And about looking for a new job right now... I really can't imagine how you live. 😔 I will not repeat what I think about what the consequences will be if Bulgaria goes to war - a complete and irreversible disaster, a ruin that will NEVER be rebuilt again.
Of course, I also want to find a qualified job. But as it turned out in the last year and a half, my options are limited to German-speaking call centers only. And for me this is not a qualified job nor is it a good job and it will cost me my health again considering the working conditions in the country. One of the things that bothers me is that employers try to combine multiple positions into a single position (or very limited staff for a huge volume of work). This is not from today, because in my first job I signed as an accountant in the tax department, I did VAT returns, communication with foreign countries, imports, sales and everything, and at the same time I made coffee for the bosses and cleaned the office every night. 😂
Nowadays, employers are turning to immigrants from the far east, because it is claimed that Bulgarians do not work enough, and these immigrants, carrying the culture of Asia, would not allow themselves to rest even when they are sick.
Years ago, when I lived in the capital and got into taxis whose drivers turned out to be scientists with two academic degrees, I always said to myself: Oh my God, I'll never get there. I insist on doing a qualified job after all this learning and qualifying.
But... it seems that is not the case, and that education means nothing, neither does hard work, nor conscientious completion of tasks, nor good work. None of that matters. Here.
If you can't hang you shouldn't have came, is an American expression that dates back to the revolutionary war.
I have been through what you are going through and it sucks. It sucks big time. I am about two weeks into my addition of Lithium batteries to my solar/wind system. After how many years of having to make constant adjustments through the day, slowly I am sleeping in and not eating spoiled food because I forgot to move the ice down from the freezer at night or put it back in the freezer during the day.
I found out my wife had not baby blanket in 54 years and I washed it unknown to her.
When you can do nothing, do little things.
Small successes lead to big success.
This is the time for love in a relationship.
And if you need to fight to survive because it's that bad. Create a plan. Volunteer.
There were rocks in the roads everywhere. I went with my truck and gathered them all over a hundred miles of roads. One would slide around on the roads in the winter time and smack a rock. Run over sharp rocks with tires. I fixed that and used to build things here.
There were nails and tire puncturing bits of metal all over the roads. I picked them.
Here some of the local freaks decided I was worthless and waste of flesh. I wrote the small things I did that made a big difference and flatly said, I will no longer do this until I get respect!
Do the little things that are good so you have ammo so that when the comes you can step up to plate and smack a scoring hit. Jump up and catch the ball to end the inning when the bases are loaded.
It's the small things that make the world better. It makes you feel good too!
When I first came to this specific place almost 6 years ago, I too thought I could make a difference. I dug through a few dumpsters around and removed the most amazing things that had been lying there for years - I found a whole horse harness, with the wooden wagon bars, bathroom curtains, rugs, clothes, shoes, expired medicine, etc. I cleaned the street in front of the house every few days of cigarette butts, bottles and all kinds of household rubbish. However, one day I realized that there was no change. One particular spot at the end of the street always filled up with trash shortly after I cleaned it. It was like it was on purpose. It's as if these people here don't want to be clean, they can't stand cleanliness. Of course, that's not exactly the case, they're not doing it on purpose, or so I hope. They are simply used to throwing and dirtying, and cleanliness does not make an impression on them. I even called the garbage company that left bins for grass, leaves and branches, because those bins were always full of nylons and plastic. I thought we could do something. But it turned out we couldn't. (That was last year.)
Guess if I keep doing that this year too. It turns out that I did it for 5 years. It also turns out that I am a very stubborn and persistent person. But there comes a point where my batteries overheat or die. And I feel like a toy whose battery is damaged or dead but can no longer be replaced. And this toy is no longer able to make a single movement anymore.
This is just one small example. It's the same with job hunting. For a year and a half I've been getting last minute rejections or no response or offers for shit jobs. Not specifically here, but for the whole country, because I'm looking for a remote job. I think any reasonable person will understand that there is no point in this going on, all the efforts wasted are pointless. My battery is dead here too. Because it has reached the limit of reasonableness.
In short, I understand your strategy of small steps, but they don't work here. I have to take one big step, little ones don't help.😃
curated by soulfuldreamer from sc03 account
curated by soulfuldreamer from sc03 account
Thanks!
Thanks @steemcurator01
You are right about drivers with two higher educations. Such cases are commonplace here and have always been. You are also right about the multi-functionality trend. In my company, if a person was fired, his position was reduced, and the functions were distributed among other employees. The owners of the enterprise liked this approach very much.
Upvoted! Thank you for supporting witness @jswit.
Потресаващи са снимките в чест на комунизма! Отвратително е, че все още съществуват хора, които величаят и милеят за него. А Геори Димитров е един от на-долните предатели на България! Такива хора, като тези заслужават кастрация. Очевидно, не са били засегнати директно и някак удобно говорят за голямото "разнообразие" и "свобода", за които тъй силно повечето от тях тъгуват - по времето на комунизма беше друго...! Едни и същи мантри се сипят в публичното пространство и съвсем прилично забравят за всички непоправими зверства - лагерите, изтребването на интелигенцията, умишленото затъпяване на нацията, грозната архитектура и какво ли още не. Благодарение на тези комунисти, България е в това състояние. Направи си проучване и виж какви са били българите и архитектурата преди и след комунизма.
I beg to differ about the architecture. Have you ever been to Dimitrovgrad? This city was built with a quality not typical of communism. I'm not talking about the ugly block of flats or other multi-family buildings typical of communism. But people are... yes, peculiar. And if they didn't kill themselves because they couldn't stand the 'welfare' under communism, they apparently really lived in prosperity. Therefore they have no reason to deny it, nor to hate it.
(Sorry for the English, but this is my Bulgarian-free place where I share the problems I face in Bulgaria and I feel unnatural writing in Bulgarian.)