When Partners Cheat on Each Other

I am feeling a little sad. Yesterday one of my very good friends from India called up and she was discussing with me about the problems in her married life. Her Husband has been continuously cheating on her since the last 5 years. It's not that she was not aware of it, but every time he would get caught, he would apologize and do all the drama that he will change and then she would melt out. She is a very soft-hearted girl and gets fooled very easily by her husband. Every time he gets caught, he manipulates with her and makes her believe that he has changed.

I have been telling her that she is in a toxic relationship and she needs to get out of it. If a person does mistake once, twice, thrice you can forgive but repeatedly if one keeps cheating then such relationship has no meaning. She is a Doctor and she earns well, whereas he does not have any proper job and income so it is obvious that he is not going to let her go away from his life so easily. Also, she takes good care of his family, so it is a win-win situation for him in all ways. Their family background is very orthodox and old styled so thinking of Divorce is a big thing and becomes a major issue in the family. She has a lot of pressure from her community and family for not getting divorced. I have been telling her that's very foolish, which world is that.

But yes, these types of situations still do exist in some parts of society in our culture where Divorce is considered a taboo and a girl should not even think about it. That's so unfair for her, because she is being exploited emotionally and financially. There is no physical connection also between them. This relationship is such a burden on her and she is not able to break free. Because of all this emotional turmoil she has health issues as well which I keep telling her that if she continues being in this relationship her health issues will get worse, because day and night she is stressed out.

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Finally, she has agreed to go ahead with Divorce this time but I just hope that once again she does not succumb to the community and family pressures of maintaining this baseless relationship where there is nothing but manipulation.
I do not believe in breaking relationships so easily; I always encourage couples to work out on their issues and create harmony in their relation. But when one person continuously keeps cheating after giving ample opportunities then in no way should it be tolerated. The person is clearly abusing you in such cases. Everyone makes mistakes in life they can be of different nature but the point is that once or twice you make mistakes you improve from that. If you keep continuing doing the same things and keep saying sorry, that sorry has no value. It is just the character of the person.

People should not be so resilient also that they lose their self-esteem in the bargain. Every relationship demands trust and respect and that should be maintained in relationships.

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