Things we learn in the process

A) Remember that Brazilian saying, something about a tantrum is only embarrassing to the one throwing it.

B) Everyone talks about their twenties, now you will too.

C) No one died, those that did wasn't because of you, and it’s not a big deal

D) Don’t look at those in their 40s living your success as a race to achieve the same accomplishment in your twenty

Let's reflect

I remember reading about kids in their twenties. Two points I’ll never forget. First, don’t waste your time in a one-sided relationship. Most articles talked about some variation of heartbreak on this topic. I wish I had listened. Why do we all get heartbroken in our twenties? The other topics covered taking take risk. Take that vacation, go for that job, and don’t settle. I think that was it, it was something to that extent.

That one I listened to. You see, we are published, authors. Every day, we scavenge our minds for words, our hearts for emotions, and attempt to connect the two in a post. Most thrive and some try. Others utilize the platform for what is important to them. I never thought it would be worth so much, but It is paying for a trip to Europe.

Side Note: I rewatched pride and prejudice on YouTube this week and it made me want to read, speak, and expand my vocabulary. Do you have movies/books that inspire you? Post for another day.

Take advantage of your twenties

I love challenges. As you might have noticed, I entered a few. Such as the vegan contest, the step it up contest, and both of these demands discipline and follow through. Sounds similar to virtue, but remember when I mentioned being in a one-sided relationship? Well, I wish we challenged ourselves to love others less.

Kubby said what?!!!

As someone that is selfish with a selfish tendency, love quickly becomes more about winning then giving. In fact, it’s a lack of self-discipline, a lack of follow through, and a lack of doing both on a consistent base. Sound familiar?

Stubborn twenties

Up to this point, all I’ve know is Brazil/Family, school/church, and work. It has always been, what it hasn’t been, and what it will be. *When I say it has always been,* I am referring to the family in Brazil or here. How they came to the states, who they have connected with here, and who they miss from here or there. We talk about living in the present, but we don’t find ourselves practicing discipline and following through with those words. They spend more time wishing they were here or there, but never really living, planning, and being just present.

When I say, it has always been school and church for education and direction. I can count on one hand the schools I’ve attended. They prepared me just enough for the next level and failed to widen my worldview. I’ve always traveled to Brazil, I’ve furthered my education, but have I understood the lesson in it all? They teach about preparing for the future and mistakes in history, but we don’t find ourselves practicing discipline and following through with those teachings. Looking back anyone can pinpoint the mistakes, but hardly are we really listening to, learning from, and acting better than our forefathers.

When I say, it has always been about work. I should also add money or the lack thereof. Grasping the concept of making money hasn’t been my talent. What has been my stronger strength is managing it. Never spending a dime not earned. Saving what I make has saved me from more headaches than I can say. Here we find discipline, but do we make ourselves slaves to work. Do we learn to make money work for us? They teach about growing and improving, but do we find ourselves practicing discipline and following through with those earnings.

Three Years to thirty

I love getting older, I look forward every day to my birthday, and I refuse to allow myself to believe otherwise. Every year is a gift. Another year cancer free. Another year of savings, paying off, traveling, and recently blogging.

I lost my job and experienced work detox for the first time. I was addicted for a paycheck, for an office space, for a purpose. Now that I have it, I’ve realized I’ve given up my time. The only aspect of my world that can never be changed, but lived. All that to say, the next few years we are going to travel. We are going to learn. We are going to love. We are going to live. Less for others and more for ourselves.