How I Walked Away From it All and Retired at 29 (and how STEEMIT is helping me)

in #steemit8 years ago (edited)

Hello again fellow Steemers!

If you don't know me or haven't read one of my posts. I wrote a post that ended up in the top 10 Steemit trending posts yesterday. The post was about my plan to leave Wordpress for Steemit.

To follow up on my promise, here's a popular article I wrote about life and work on my Wordpress blog (at the end I'll show you how Steem is helping me achieve my goals):

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. This secret allowed me to retire early at the age of 29. But I'm going to warn you, if you clicked on this post expecting to learn a unique financial strategy that enabled me to save enough, over a short period of time, to never have to work again, you're in for a big disappointment.

Although saving was crucial to retiring, it wasn't the most important thing. In reality, I only had about a year's worth of expenses saved up prior to quitting my job, hardly enough to retreat to a tropical island and sip Mai Tais for the rest of my life.

Okay enough stalling. Here's the real secret to how I managed to retire early. Are you ready? Here it is:

I simply changed my definition of the word "retirement".

That's it.

I just changed my mindset. I changed what the word "retirement" meant to me and just like that, I was retired.

I changed what I believed was society's definition of retirement:

When you sacrifice 40 or 50 years of your life doing something you don't like, so you have enough money to do what you want...when you're old.

To my own personal definition of retirement:

When you stop doing what you think you're "supposed to do" and start doing what's uniquely right for you...today.

Once I adopted that frame of mind, I was free to do anything. I stopped looking to others to figure out what to do, instead I looked within, and the answers were obvious.

For all of you thinking to yourself, "This advice is unrealistic new age hippie bullshit!" I challenge you to really think about what I actually did:

I decided this wasn't for me, I saved for a year, I turned in my two weeks, and I walked out the door. Simple right? So if what I did was so simple, why do so few people do it?

Real financial hardship notwithstanding (I'm privileged as fuck btw), I think the real reason is that people are terrified of walking away from what's comfortable and familiar, and to instead, embrace the unknown.

If you feel that way, I'd tell you the idea of wasting your one life trying to live up to other people's expectations is a lot more terrifying.

Also you're not going to know what's right for you immediately. The purpose of the journey is to help you figure that out.

I came up with this definition after I was asked when I going back to corporate for the millionth time. My answer always was, "I don't plan to go back, I love my life right now, why would I go back?"

I realized I was already doing what I loved, which was traveling, writing, spending time with the people I love, and picking up gigs in the sharing economy. Why would I want to stop? It was at that point, I realized I was "retired."

You see, I'm not talking about retirement in the financial sense. Notice nowhere in my definition did I mention "money" or "not working."

I'm talking about something bigger than work and money. I'm talking about retirement as a state of mind. I'm challenging the fundamental premise behind the concept of "retirement" all together.

The premise that says you can't do what you really want until you've put in time doing what you're "supposed to do"...like everyone else.

The premise that has you waiting for the "perfect time" to do something bold. When that perfect time doesn't exist outside of today.

The premise that has you putting off making the most of your life today, knowing you can get hit by a bus tomorrow.

The premise that keeps you from living according to your unique truths, in exchange for the comfort that comes with conformity.

Don't get me wrong. The last thing I'm telling you to do is to quit your job to travel and freelance like I did. That was unique to my situation and it's probably not right for you. Especially if you have a family to feed, student loans up to your eyeballs, or actually like your job. And don't look to me or anyone else to tell you what's right for you, only you know that.

However, what I am telling you to do is to stop waiting to "retire" from situations that are not healthy for you and your loved ones. Whether it's retiring from toxic relationships, destructive habits, an unhealthy lifestyle, or an inauthentic life.

My hope is that once you retire from whatever it is that's making you miserable, you'll never have to retire again. For in the process of "retiring," you'll make space to create a life you love, a life that's uniquely true to you, a life you'd never want to quit.

Thank god I did. If I didn't, I'd probably still be sitting in my cubicle writing some mindless report, instead of writing what you just read.

Update 7/15: I wrote this post 11 days ago on Wordpress, got 1,000+ views, and made $0 dollars. So instead of continuing to do what I felt added the most value to the world (sharing my thoughts), I had to go back to driving for Uber & Lyft to make enough to pay the rent.

Upon discovering Steemit and posting 3 articles. I've made over $2,000 dollars. Steemit is validation to everything I wrote in this post. Validation that if you follow your intuition, trust that by creating value for others, you'll be taken care of. My advice for all you new Steemers out there is don't ask how you can make the most money, instead, ask how you can create the most value, if you do that, the money will follow...

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Ah, well by that definition, I retired at 22. :P

I disagree. In my ideal world, no one would need to retire, because they'll all be doing what they love :)

Hmm I just looking at my situation ugh

Keep dreaming!

In my ideal world greed would be a foreign concept.

If you truly love your job, there is no reason to retire. I don't want to sit at home all day when I'm 75. I'd rather do something productive and make a living doing it.

The key is to eat right and exercise now, so that you have the physical and mental capacity to do your job when you are older.

The key is to follow your passion in every moment and watch your dreams blossom into gardens for your harvest XD

I'm privileged as fuck btw

This is what makes your article meaningless to 99% of people.

My hope is that once you retire from whatever it is that's making you miserable, you'll never have to retire again.

Ok. Working at my 9-5 job is making me miserable. How do I "retire" from that? Because last I checked money is kind of important. And I don't want to find another 9-5 job because that's not what I want to do at all.

I get what you're saying, you're defining retirement as happiness. The definition of retirement is when you stop working at a time when you're financially independent for the remainder of your life. It would make me happy to just travel the world and spend time with my friends and family all day and NOT work..... but I can't do that without a shit ton of money. I can't be financially independent without working or getting lucky... or in your case, being "privileged as fuck"

So how exactly does one retire when they are not financially independent? "Figure something out" that generates cash?

Hey @dafar, I appreciate your candid feedback.

Regarding, the privilege comment. I included that to show that I am conscious that my privilege is allowing me to do what I'm doing; that I'm not being ignorant (at best) or disingenuous (at worst).

I addressed how people that aren't privileged as I, can "retire."

I don't think we can continue this discussion while using two different definitions of retirement. Regarding the practical realities of improving your financial situation (as I mentioned, it does matter, just not as much as you think). You can spend less and find ways to generate more income. For example, writing genuine authentic articles about your struggles on Steemit or finding gigs in the sharing economy (I drove for Uber & Lyft). Hopefully, the 2 cents I gave you just by acknowledging and upvoting is a start.

Hey thanks, I appreciate your response too. And I hope I didn't sound harsh. I'm actually fairly privileged too and make good money though my job.... but to really free yourself from financial burdens and enjoy life as a free spirit, I feel like you need a LOT of money these days

I'm not sure what your life situation is (i.e. family and kids). But I'd counter by asking you what do you really NEED in life? Then ask you how much money do you need to acquire those things.

Personally, the only things I NEED are water, food, shelter, and to be around my loved ones, and these things aren't expensive :)

Oh yeah, internet access is a need as well, good luck it's abundant and not prohibitively expensive. haha

there are two ways to get everything you desire. become absolutely filthy stinking rich, or desire less.

A wise man should have money in his head, not his heart. -Satoshi Nakamoto
TestYourKnowledge

I agree. I think it's really important to enjoy your work, because it doesn't feel like a job.

I'm lucky that I've been working in a field where I love what I do, and I'm glad you've found yours!

Now if you ask me what the definition of "inspiration " is, I'll point you to this article. I want more control of how I live and not just being here to support others' lifestyles. I just joined this site 2 days ago and just wrote my first article ever last night.

My passion is gardening and my blog is starting with the development of my first vegetable garden in many years.

Thank you so much for this post. It made me think.

Thank you for the kind words @breakfastchief . I'm confident if you continue to nurture your passion and share it with others, you will be liberated. My upvote of your comment is the beginning of that.

Congratulations on your success! I have a family to feed and take care of, as you hinted at, so for me, running away is not an option. But your article gave me a lot to think about. I do like what I do at work, so that helps, but I think there is a lifestyle out there waiting for me that would be even more true to who I am.

I encourage everyone to live free...do want you want when you want to do it. That will make you happy.

Thanks @ kevinpham20.
I agree with you. I left my corporate gig in June of 2015 to discover what it is I'm supposed to be doing. I appreciate you writing about your journey.

The style of "retiring" we all want.

Hi Kevin, I like the way you think! You make a good point about retiring from the bad stuff :) it's writers like you that give me inspiration. I hope to be at your level someday!

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