Kill Your DAMN shyness!
So many of us are shy these days! Maybe it's technology, Being able to stay home, Order pizza online. Go on Facebook. We pretty much have eliminated the need to go out and talk to people.
- You can work from home
- You can deposit checks with your phone.
- You can buy anything online, Including groceries.
While these luxuries are quite nice, They have been increasing our shyness, So when we have actually to go out and interact with people. We don't know how to anymore.
One of the best skills you can learn in life, Is the ability to interact confidently with other people.
Also, making connections and building relationships becomes easier, And social events also are improved too.
Deliberately do the things you fear
Shy people often stay at home, Because social situations make them nervous.
However, putting yourself in a situation that frightens you helps overcome your fear. Whether it’s talking to people, pushing yourself in social settings can help boost your confidence and become more accustomed to being around people.
Put your thinking straight
Sometimes shyness can be considered an issue in your thinking that can generate distorted interpretations or predictions that cause anxiety.
To help combat that, Identify the unreasonable thoughts you are having.
This allows you to know how best to proceed, thus creating room for more constructive, positive thinking. When you focus on that, You are then able to focus on your positive traits instead.
Practicing this type of thinking eventually replaces all negative thoughts, thus helping boost your self-confidence.
Keep practicing
You have to actually go out there and practice. Not just read articles online, then sit at home doing nothing about it. You could even get a job that forces you to interact with other people.
It takes implementation to yield real results. Some people have transformed from shy to social. What they all have in common is that they found a method of fighting shyness that worked for them and worked at for several months and consistently. Continuous practice helps reprogram one’s behavior, feelings and thinking, thus making them more social and outgoing.
One of the most common mistakes that people make is that they give up too soon.
They think that once signs of confidence start to become evident; the race is over. This is why many of them get stuck.
The ultimate recipe to overcoming shyness is learning, applying, and willingness to invest in oneself. There is a big, exciting world out there and until you get out of your shell, you will never truly experience it.
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What if shyness was a result of previous problems and insecurities?
That is where you identify the irrational thought and proceed with the necessary steps to heal that thought-process. It is irrational because the mind has created a rigid set of parameters that every situation with near likeness will result in the same manner as the experience which imparted the imprint upon the psyche.
Like being picked on, bullied for being different or unique. I have been shy since I was very young. Though I understand the concept of facing your fears, for some (including me) it has underlying stuff that takes much longer to come to terms with, and if that person encounters a 'mean person' again, it can be a huge setback. I actually find that the internet allows me to be more social than I was prior to it's existence.
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This is all very true. It has worked for me in the opposite way. I used to be so social and outgoing. Now that i live with people who are more shy it has runbed off on me a bit. Not too badly but I'm definately more of a home body. I wonder if its an age thing...
Aww man It could also be an age thing, But I agree being around more shy people can impact whether you are more shy or not.
Being shy is only from the start coz when shy person starts to engage to socialize they more noisy and talkative. You are right @kaylinart, its just a matter of practice and getting used to.
Heh its all the stored conversations they've never had.
Yes :)
"One of the most common mistakes that people make is that they give up too soon"
This is great and can be used in all aspects of life! :)
So true it can :)
excellent!
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Thank you :)
Giving up too soon sums me up very much. I need to learn to allow my confidence to thrive, rather than hinder it by self-destructive means.
Exactly you need to do that :)
These are great tips to help people learn to interact.
I'd like to take a moment to point out to others the difference of shy and introversion. While shy individuals want to interact but have difficulty doing so, introverts don't want to interact and some have trouble doing so when they need to interact. That being said, this article can be a wonderful assistance to anyone needing help with their interactions with others.
Where do you get these ideas every day? I feel like I'm reading life-hack, the website :D Are you a contributor there also?
I brainstorm regularly. I have hundreds of ideas, Sometimes I'll go on life hack websites and also find more things I want to write about :) I'm not a contributor there, But maybe one day I will be :) this will be a good portfolio for them.