To cuddle you are never too big

To cuddle you are never too big

Babies and young children have a great need for physical proximity. The older the children become, the less pronounced is the desire for cuddling and touching - but it never goes away completely and it is also good.

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Science proves that cuddling is vital and makes you wise. This is especially true for babies, but also afterwards, strokes and physical closeness are still very important: They offer comfort in difficult situations and say in a simple and unmistakable way: "I love you!" Especially in the most disturbing situations, even bigger children calm down significantly lighter if they are allowed to mumble or mama or daddy or simply be taken into the arm.

Cuddling makes you healthy, happy and creative
In case of pleasant body contact, the body pours out the happiness hormone Oxytocin and in considerable amounts. This makes children happy and at the same time strengthens the immune system. It is scientifically proven that children who are experiencing only a little physical tenderness are often sick. The oxytocin also stimulates the brain. The ideas begin to bubble. Try to cuddle with your child when he is bored. Afterwards, it will surely have some ideas that drive away the boredom.

Too cool to cuddle?
Already during pre-puberty, the first physical and emotional changes occur in the child. This is often associated with increased coolness. Physical proximity to the parents suddenly becomes stupid and unmanly - at least in the public eye. At home most of the boys still do not mind cuddling with mama or mom, crawl to bed in the morning or exchange a kiss for farewell. For the feeling of security and security is particularly important in the transitional phase from child to adult.

As a parent, you should adapt to the fact that your child has many faces: at home, the cuddly and cuddly child, in the public, especially when watching friends, the cool big boy or the already so grown girl. In order to spare their child's embarrassments and self-indulgent and sometimes unreasonably severe rejections, you should acknowledge this situation and respect the wishes of your child.

You should be particularly careful with your daughter during this time. It gradually develops into the woman and it is necessary to maintain a certain physical distance or to observe certain rules when touched. There are now tabuzons on the body of your daughter, which you can no longer involve in the strokes.

Tenderness can not be demanded
At least not as a parent. If your child wants to pull away from you by dispensing with body contact, you have no choice but to accept and respect. For unwillingly given or received strokes are highly unsatisfactory on both sides. If your child rejects your tenderness, however, it should respect the courtesy rules. You should not tolerate an aggressive or insulting kick-off. If possible, talk to your son or daughter about what it needs, what is pleasing to him, and perhaps why it should not be addressed or stroked by others.

Children are constantly changing, undergoing different phases and changing needs. Stay awake for your child and also focus on where it is body contact and proximity, according to his and not according to your needs.