Pros & Cons of the Game of Love

Love ... allows us to climb eagles or fall like a rock thrown from a cliff into the water. Everyone is looking for that powerful emotion in their lives; That completes us. Why do we do it so badly when someone we love disappoints us when he is wrong or simply can not love us? We are born and we understand love. It is the basis of human emotions and differentiates us from all other species. We can love like no one else and our expectations of the person with whom we share these emotions are high!

We believe that the other people who matter most to us, we have the same expectations and the same intentions. Imagine that you dream of us because we dream of it and share it with them. If we had never said "I love you" unintentionally, we assume they feel the same. When we hear these magic words, we think they mean the same thing about the person who tells them how to say it. When we fall in love with it, we believe it is reciprocal. If we never cheat, we expect the same commitment from our partners.

These expectations cause pain. How is it possible that someone with whom we have shared so much is ready to leave or lie and deceive, tear our relationships and our families for something that is not worth it? How could we evaluate so badly the situation that surprised us when the truth came into our lives? Much worse is the absolute lack of emotion expressed by the person we love and to whom we have entrusted so many of our most secret secrets when we confront them. In a way, they are ready to become victims and tell us everything we missed or should have done to bring them home. It is a story of unhappiness, sadness, and suffering without an acceptable end that was our life together.

Love forces us to trust, to really trust another person; We are vulnerable when we do it. Some fly upside down; always that his partner has never violated his relationship of trust. Others are suspicious of emotions, knowing that there is an unknown person about another person. But when we finally call it "in love", we have crossed the threshold of caution and we are totally in the game.

We can avoid a bit of suffering by accepting that we should gain confidence and believing that, as Maya Angelo said, "if someone shows you who they are, believe us the first time". When we understand that we are in a new relationship with the best that the other person has to offer, this is a key element. Things do not improve; People have their best behavior at the beginning of the game. If then they lie or cheat, we should agree to have an idea of a commitment different from what we have. If they have a history of lies or deception towards a spouse or partner, they realize that cheating is a fact. Animals do not change points, even if they can get more hidden results. If you've met the one you love, while you were married or in a relationship and cheated on your partner, then it's a bombardment of the future for you; Cheat the cheaters. They like to tell us when they are caught; "You knew I was a cheat, I cheated on you when I met you!" And they were.

We like to believe that someone we love is what we want, not those who have shown us that they are. When we are forced to slow down and pay close attention to what we see and receive from a potential partner, we will be one kilometer away in the game of love. As difficult as it may be, it's time to use your head before opening the door of your heart and making it yours. Believe what you see and you can check it. If all this is credible, you can afford to open the door to trust and, therefore, to love. If you go beyond the warning signs, do not be surprised to learn that you have lost a lot more and that pain can be a constant companion in your relationship. Do not you earn a lot more?