Thinking on your feet; the secret to charm the world.
If you've ever craved that "wow" look on people's faces when you talk to them, take a look at this.
As hours go by, more of my posts are taking the personal route and i'm not going to try to stop them. I have always been the quiet, reserved type. The one that always smiles when he's not moody. The one that laughs to everything just to save himself from having to come up with a reply. The one that never went out of his way to talk to people.
With all these, I should have been the lonely one, yeah? Nah! People became inquisitive.
What's it with this guy that is always smiling? This smiling guy looks cool. Hey, I like your smile.
They wouldn't stop coming so I had to talk. I became the friendly one but still awfully quiet. With time, the quietness became really annoying to me (lol) so I decided I needed to do something about it. I had no idea what it was going to be but I knew something had to be done.
Fast forward to today and I get the biggest compliment this year. @kus-knee said he loves my sharp wit! Wow!!! So I know what "sharp wit" means but I was so overwhelmed with a feeling I don't understand (maybe a high dose of excitement) that I went ahead to google "sharp wit" 😃🙈. I saw the meaning I already knew then as I scrolled, I saw something new.
Psychologists from Australia found out that people who answer general knowledge questions quicker always come across as being more charismatic.
Who doesn't love a charismatic person?
As I read deeper, I began to see traces of myself in the article. The goal here is not to have the right answers but to always have an answer real quick.
I do this a lot. I see it as a game. Many of my friends have told me before today "you always have answers to everything" but none of that has ever hit home the way @kus-knee 's did.
So according to the report of the Australian psychologists, because I think on my feet and provide answers faster than others, people around me see me as being more charismatic and when i'm charismatic, I have a higher chance of impressing a date, winning over a large group of people, or charming a colleague.
My reply doesn't have to be smart! I don't need a high IQ or Emotional Intelligence, just the ability to think and respond swiftly!
It's amazing to see myself in the company of George Clooney, Barack Obama, and Jon Stewart.
That's one hell of a team to be in!
So how do you become like us?
Practice. The more you do it, the more natural it becomes. The easiest sounding board would be around those closest to you. I can freely give the dumbest replies around my friends and we'll all laugh and move on but the replies don't always have to be dumb.
TV shows might also have contributed to me being this way. The Big Bang Theory and How I Met Your Mother, are the two that come to mind first.
I am not the smartest of kids but most times, my replies will make you laugh and even when you sigh, it would be because you're amazed at how awesome I am.
When you're thinking on your feet, you're not trying to prove that you're smart. It's about coming up with something very quickly. If you then come up with something smart very quickly, good for you, that's a plus!
From this moment on, I can go to bed knowing i'm not totally useless just because I don't have the highest IQ or emotional intelligence. Who needs all that when I have the secret to charm the world.
I hope this information will help you comment more on posts you read here on Steemit and Busy. The goal is not to prove you're smart, it is to say something quickly before something else takes up your time.
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Link to the referenced article
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3344636/Want-charm-Think-feet-Sharp-witted-people-respond-questions-quickly-charistmatic.html
I reply incredibly slowly. Picture a sloth that's baked out of his mind - That's me when replying to a question. It's something I need to work on, so I'm going to take your advice and consciously try to respond as fast as I can.
It will be very cool if you decide to take conscious efforts to change it. I don't expect you to change overnight but that's a super cool first step.
A very insightful article. Great having you here on Steemit!
I'm so happy to see you having success on this platform and I hope to see more from Africa jumping on board.
@kus-knee (The Old Dog)
Thank you for inspiring it! I believe it takes dedication to do well here. I'm still under 30 days old on Steemit.
I've been seeing quite a number of folks from South Africa. Getting the word out will be key but most people from this side require some form of proof before jumping on anything. Maybe my success story (properly crafted) could go a long way in bringing them on board.
I have two people i'm personally going to onboard next week. It has been an amazing experience I can't stop talking about.
Thank you once again for all the inspiration!!!
Are you on steemit.chat ? If not it's a good place to promote and we can also "meet" over there. I'm not using busy yet because it's still a bit too glitchy for me. I might feature you in one of my upcoming articles!
Yes i'm on it!
I go on Busy to mostly admire the beauty but you know it's in beta so finding all the glitches is the goal.
I already sent you a message on Steemit chat
Hey great job @fisteganos. You're getting better! :)
Steem on.
😊 I can feel it too! Thank you so much!!!
I'm loving every bit of the ride and it's been an awesome journey.
Wow!!! Thank you!
I love the honesty and confidence! My brother would be described as someone with a sharp wit :) I really enjoy reading what you write my friend!
I really can't stop smiling right now. (And when that happens, I rarely have anything to say LOL)
Thank you! Your words mean a lot.
Thank you for article) Vote and follow)
Came here to vote in just in time :) :D , I for one tend to overthink and miss out on those opportunities , sometimes it's strange because in a group people will get the same ideas , I've had it happen to me many many times --> i think of something, wait around a while an listen and then --> boom somebody says the same thing,? who should be credited? :D i have a quick wit but a slow head and I tend to hate social interactions, unless there isn't something to do ,
anyway from my personal experience , when I was active in my teens , running around and being more energetic in general , I did tend to leave a good impression , didn't care what I said that much and just went with the "flow" ,
then too much distancing and digging in my PC , got me to stray away and go on the philosophical route , also wisdom seems to be associated with peacefulness and coolness , so more of that please :) ,
also listening is good for people , sure you might not get the first impression right, but you can always make a lasting one :)
Thank you!
It's normal to want to favor one side over the other (I.e. Preferring peace and quiet over social gatherings) but the goal should be to balance both sides.
I don't really talk, many times the scenario you painted (someone else saying what you just thought of) happens to me also.
It has taken a decision to "not be too quiet" for me to start working on myself.
So now it's like; I don't really fancy the social interaction but when I find myself in any, I become the best version of me before returning to some peace and quiet to refuel.
Even better , Cheers to that :) !
Good luck :) !