Yesterday I got hit by a homeless person

in #life5 years ago

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Yesterday I was waiting for the tram with my daughter

We were on our way to the embassy to pick up her passport, and to get there we need to take the tram. So we walked to our nearest station, and around this area, there are always a lot of homeless people. The area we live in is one of the less nice districts (the look and feel of it compared to other parts of Budapest). But to be honest, I've never had any negative experiences with any of the homeless people, I only helped them and as some may know I even started a project to help them in the future. This project is now on hold because of health issues because I'm in a lot of pain caused by my back injury since the cold weather kicked in. I can barely walk some days, and carrying boxes of stuff is quite impossible, so I decided to first see if my pain will get less before continuing this project. Which was a pretty bummer to make this decision, but I didn't see it coming that I'd be in this much pain soon when I started the project. Health comes first, and I hope to soon be able to continue the project.

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Back to yesterday

I was walking with my toddler holding my hand, and a homeless guy approached us, nothing out of the ordinary and it's not something that normally scares me or makes me feel uncomfortable. Most of the times I just feel for them and I smile at them when they look at me. This time we had a situation that we both walked to the same side to pass each other, so I went left, he went right, and then you're facing each other. Normally you just correct and go the other way, and it's fine. This time the man instantly started shouting with an aggressive tone, of course, I have no clue what he said because I don't speak more than a few words Hungarian. So I calmly told him (in Dutch because he probably doesn't understand me anyway even if I speak English) to calm down as there's nothing wrong. Just pass and continue. To my surprise, he started yelling even louder and I instantly saw that he got aggressive. Not to forgot I still have my toddler walking next to me who also noticed the guy started to shout at me. I told him again to just calm down, we already passed each other, please just continue.

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And I turned around

Just being a bit confused about why someone would get this aggressive to a stranger for something like this. And then the shouting came close to me really fast and before I could even turn around to check, he hit me! With his heavy bag I got a full smack against my head. Now, I could have done several things, but I knew if I'd continue talking to him he'd get more aggressive and the spot we were waiting is kind of dangerous for a 2,5 year old to stand without holding hands. Because if she falls she can either fall on the road where there are cars passing by, or fall on the rails of the tram. So I never let go of her hand for safety reasons. I couldn't take the risk that this guy would go nuts on her, or me so I'd have to let go of her hand and something would happen because she may run away from that guy. So the only thing I could do was to stand there flabbergasted and let the crazy guy walk away.

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Sitting in the tram I got angry

Why I even let this happen to me without taking action, but then again I know the situation would have probably got nasty and dangerous for my daughter, so then there's only one right choice to make.. do nothing. For her safety. But I did get angry, and suddenly I was reminded of the few Hungarian people telling me that many of the homeless have mental issues. This was clearly one of them. I've been living here a little over a year now, and never witnessed anything like it before, let alone happen to me. It feels scary to know this guy could have gone nuts on me or worse, maybe my daughter for just witnessing it. Because I think I can judge a person pretty well most of the times (that's why I decided not to respond and continue walking, not knowing he'd come back and hit me from behind) and this was an eyeopener to me that it can lead to a dangerous situation even if it would only be for my daughter trying to run away and fall on the road/rails when a person like this comes after me.

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I hate feeling like this

This will make me more cautious to respond to any other homeless person, and I actually hate it that this guy caused it. Because I know there are many of them without mental issues or not being a danger to others at all. But I do have to protect my daughter as she can't protect herself in these matters. Now I'm stuck with this feeling that I'm probably going to ignore even looking at many of the homeless as there may be one that even gets nuts by a look from someone. I've not witnessed this here myself, but I know for a fact in Holland that has been the case with some people with certain mental issues. And I will be very cautious now because the guy hit me hard with a heavy bag against my head. I'm already limping because of my back injury at the moment, and I can't use another injury along with it. I don't want to judge people like this, but the reality is that I will do that from now on because I didn't see this coming either.

To be honest, I had no clue what kind of picture I should put above this post, so don't judge me for picking this one please.. I just needed to write it off .. thanks for reading!

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Scary situation. There was nothing else you could do, especially with the little one.

Thanks, I know.. still has an impact that makes me think a bit different about helping the others that may not have these issues.. but that will probably pass eventually ;)

You did the right to not respond. I know it must have been tempting, but watching after the little one takes precedence over anything else.

It is a pity that your experience of homeless people has been tarnished by this encounter. However, see it as an outlier (unless it happens often...) and remember other encounters which were much more positive and probably more numerous.

Yes, it was tempting, because I had my fair share of "people" that got their hands on me in a relationship in the past, that I really don't want to just let a stranger lunatic (sorry) do this without me saying anything. But the little one was there and that's way more important so I just counted to 10 a few times, and vented to my boyfriend lol..

I know the other moments are way more positive, I really do. And the feeling will probably slowly fade eventually, but this combined with my back pains (the reason I had to pause my project for them) made me decide that at this moment it's not the time to do something. Safety first, and because many days I'm limping already because of the pain, I don't want to get caught in a situation where I can't defend myself .. We'll see in a while how I feel and how it's going with the pain. And take it from there.. It is what it is..

I think you did the right thing; he's obviously got some issues. Perhaps this is more of a cautionary tale...be aware of the possibilities, but don't ever change your loving self because of one man's problems.

I'm so glad that you and your daughter are ok!

He sweet @lynncoyle1 thank you ! I know I shouldn't change my thinking, it's just this combined with my already "not intended pause" because of the back injury that makes me step away a little bit. I will not try to help them with her by my side for at least a while I guess.. It was an eye-opener and he could have hurt me a lot more I really didn't see it coming as I was already continuing walking.. How are you doing? I just bumped across your post this morning because of @dj123 sharing it in the server.. Sorry that I didn't see it earlier.. I'm sending all my digital love to you guys <3

You have to do whatever is comfortable for you 😊

I'm doing ok I guess. Brian's doing the same. I haven't been doing anything much on here but scrolling through ginabot, and when I saw your post I had to comment. Hope your back feels better soon too ❤️

Well, that's luckily still quite positive, so really glad to read that!! You should really just enjoy the time together and only do what you feel like on the platform, because people will not forget about you two anyway :) Just try to be as relaxed as possible is my humble advice.. thank you for caring and commenting it's much appreciated <3

Such a scary situation... I guess no one is really prepared for that. You did what every mother would do. I hope your pains go away very soon.

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I think you did exactly what you are suppose to. If you would have engaged it would have gotten worse. And you also taught some great values to your child.
Perhaps this may not be the best advice as I don't know your current situation but perhaps can be somewhat of a solution. It was for me.
Maybe looking into some self defense/martial arts could be advantageous in your case. Knowing that you have an injury can still be respected during the course of learning and may even help it. I don't know the whole thing with your injury and what your limitations are but it could be something to look in to.
I can say that for myself, my experience, I gained a lot more confidence in the presence of people knowing that I can defend myself and my kids if something were to happen. I can avoid and stop things from happening while giving warning as well. The confidence comes with the training and makes you feel better about yourself and you will also feel stronger and better knowing that you can also protect your little one.
I hope that this never happens again to you and that things turn for the better. Wishing you good healings from this event and that your back will one day be at its best :)

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