Love: Truth or Deceit
I love you. We have all uttered these words. They are so effortless to say. Mere physical attraction, simple fondness or infatuation may move us to speak them. Once we find an object of our affections, we utter these words over and over, as though each time we say them they become truer.
When we hear these words, we are filled with indescribable delight. Emotions inside us are triggered that make us lose all rationality. The mind gives way to the heart. And when this happens, there is no turning back.
What are these words really? They are but sounds uttered, mere symbols written on paper, a few keystrokes that form a text message. And what if these words are said by someone who does not mean them?
When we hear these words, we desperately want to believe their authenticity. This makes us prone to deceit. The delight we feel, the overflowing joy, the enchantment that comes each time we hear those words make us want to hear them more and more. And this conditions us to do just about anything for the person who says them. We become addicted to hearing these words, for it has become the reassuring sign that this person belongs to us.
But what if there is deceit behind those words? Then this is where the manipulation begins. Without our noticing it, we are slowly transformed into that person’s slave, willing to give everything just to keep on hearing them. It is always too late when we realize this. And when the romance finally ends, that’s when we discover that we have lost everything in exchange for empty words.
To render ourselves resistant to deceit, we must first discard the fantasy and return to reality. We must accept a simple fact, that the words ‘I love you’ remain meaningless until deeds prove them true. If you have found the right person, hearing the words may not even be necessary. Every so often we become aware that a person’s love is real through actions and by the way we are made to feel. When we can see it and feel it, that is when hearing the words no longer matters. And this is the undeniable truth, that deeds can prove that love is real despite the absence of words.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Frederick Fabella, PhD is a graduate and undergraduate professor in the Philippines. He is an editorial board member of the IRP international research journal and a Fellow of the Royal Institution Singapore. He is an author of various books and studies. His blog can be found at Meanings & Perceptions