🌳6 The Bad Character of Women is Made as a Wife🌳

🌳6 The Bad Character of Women is Made as a Wife🌳

Description of the Problem:

Getting married is a way out of two people to realize the love that flares up in their hearts, seeking happiness and for preserving offspring. Everyone certainly wants a good and ideal life partner, behavior, religion and fun, of course.

Imam Al-Ghazali in his phenomenal essay on the book Ihya Ulumuddin gives some tips so that we are not wrong in choosing women, because good choices will certainly bring good results. Here are some criteria for women who are not suitable to be made as wives.

1. Al-Ananah

أما الأنانة فهي التي تكثر الأنين والتشكي وتعصب رأسها كل ساعة

Al-Ananah (complaining) is a woman who complains and complains, always wraps her head as a sign of illness. This is done to tell people that they feel burdened with their daily assignments because they are lazy or indeed their innate nature. Women like this carry on complaining even if they are caused by small matters. The woman pretended to be sick so that her husband would not burden her with daily assignments. Marrying a woman who is intentionally ill is of no use at all.

1. Al-Mananah

والمنانة التي تمن على زوجها فتقول فعلت لأجلك كذا وكذا

Al-Mananah is a woman who gives something to her husband but likes to bring up the gift. Often when talking he always brings it up, even more so when a problem occurs, he always feels that giving her husband is not comparable to what he has given.

1. Al-Hananah

والحنانة التي تحن إلى زوج آخر أو ولدها من زوج آخر وهذا أيضا مما يجب اجتنابه

Al-Hananah is a woman who likes to miss, toss up and remember her ex-husband or child from her husband first. (Women like this will not respect their husbands even though their husbands try to satisfy their wishes)

1. Al-Haddaqah

والحداقة التي ترمي إلى كل شيء بحدقتها فتشتهيه وتكلف الزوج شراءه

Al-Haddaqah is a woman who wants whatever she sees when shopping (extravagant), which imposes and burdens her husband in the economy.

1. Al-Baraqah

والبراقة تكون طول النهار في تصقيل وجهها وتزيينه ليكون لوجهها بريق محصل والثاني أن تغضب على الطعام فلا تأكل إلا وحدها

Al-Baraqah has two meanings. First, like to decorate all the time (over or over reasonable limits) so that his face appears more graceful and enchanting. Second, women who do not want to eat in the crowd, and he will not eat unless alone, he will also save a certain part for himself.

1. Al-Syaddaqah

والشداقة المتشدقة الكثان ومنه قَوْلَهُ صَّىلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تعالى يبغض الثرثارين المتشدقين

Al-Syaddaqah is a woman who talks a lot, exceeds the level of necessity, especially speaking things that are not important. Likes to pay anyone even her own husband. As the Prophet said, that Allah is angry with women who talk a lot of things that are not important. Wallahua'lam.

References: Ihya Ulumiddin juz 2 p. 61 cet I will be in Egypt in 2013