Why we are not happy OPPINION on steemit

Even if it is impossible to find universal recipes for "happiness" because everyone has their own path toward equilibrium, there are factors that may influence life and ability to find happiness.

Although we all want to be satisfied with our own lives, we tend to adopt a mindset focused on "what should be done" in contrast to "what makes me feel happy." Most times, we lean on false filtration for some values ​​that, somehow influence our own happiness conditions such as material wealth or exaggerated desire for perfection.  There are also external factors  and we can mention here the influence of the family in which we grew up, circle of friends and acquaintances which we belong, the workplace and the society in which we want to achieve.

That if a child were induced (consciously or not) ideas like:

- "You may not always deserve what you get ..."

- "To deserve to be loved, to be understood or accepted, you must ..."

- "Others have worked much more to this ..."

On the other hand, religion has implemented at the level of the collective unconscious, the idea of ​​"sin" to "deserve" to be happy only after certain endeavors, sacrifices etc.

For some people has become almost a utopia - if not from always - feel capture and happy in all areas and at the same time became almost a constant endeavor to bestow, within the family, all the dissatisfaction caused by everyday stress.

In some cases, people, especially women, tend to "sacrifice for the others" fall into various roles of savior, more or less effective.They could use this extraordinary endowment and might work for your own being with the same dedication to working for others.

In fact, if a person really wants a change, if it wants to be happy, will begin by changing or building his own destiny, and the thoughts and actions will change constantly. If deduce what the situation was, what are the causes that make him be "unfortunate", man is free to choose a different mode of action, and for that choose to live different life.

Words and deeds are not valid, no longer lived in the present, they are chosen more or less carefully, according to the "repertoire" of each educational or intellectual.

 At work every support through thoughts and actions in a certain work helps us to keep the job. A relationship must be supported to be supportive and each of us must "uphold" his own life, for it to bring joy and fulfillment. this will automatically generate happiness, because each of us has scored in his being the desire to love and be loved, the desire to be happy and create happiness. In this way, gift of Life is valued and enhanced ".

If, at the end of the day, life has been lived, it was a good day.