:( I'm sorry to hear that. When people we love "won't change," especially when it's something "for their own good..." That's the worst. My sister feels similarly, and I know much of her "harshness" is because she's afraid. And yes, there are many forms of pacifier. (I'm a bit of a Freudian, so I could talk about this for a while lol) . Incidentally, we cannot escape them. We are "doomed" to at least have some kind of "neurosis--" it's what makes us "human!!!" (and ha;f the fun, if you ask me... ;) I truly hope things are okay with your father. Perhaps telling him this story may help?? till next time!