It is strong the rage that you must feel inside, that big red compare your relationship with helper as a sin and more that he has told you that those are his rules in his bunker, the hard part is not that he tells you the rules the rage is I told you at that time in the worst scenario, where they do not have how to generate a plan to find a place where they do not reproach you for your relationship.
I hope you have a bit of calm and patience I do not think everything is against you.