Learning to recognize and celebrate a Victory
In my life I´ve met people who are perfectionists, other folks are over-achievers, some try to reach for the stars but mainly, people who strive to be the better version of themselves.
These people have had a significant postive influence in my life and in my life achievements; you know what they say, you are a mix of the ten people closest to you, so having them around always brings my person to higher standards. I try to engage and get involved with people I admire, people that I know I can learn something from them, whether it is their lifestyle, point of views about important matters, listen to their experiences or simpli just have a deep meaningful conversation.
I wouldn´t be the person I am today if I hadn´t actively work to rise my standards every day, to become the best version of myself, to always fight to get wins regardless of the size of those victores.
But also, I know I have some insight to bring to the table, it is not like I just use a person for what they can give me, I try to help them to achieve their life goals, I give them council from my point of view, I cheer them up when they need it but most importantly, I tell them when I think they are making a mistake.
Why? Because human relations are like this.
We are all in a continuous and never ending search for success, it doesn´t matter if it is personal, profesional, spiritual or inside your family core, we need some victories in order to feel like we are moving forward, to realize we are not stuck, to believe we are worth something to someone.
The thing is, I´ve noticed among all of these amazing people that, no matter how high is the bar or how far is the goal, they always keep trying, they actively work towards achieving their dreams and that is what truly inspires me.
It is always heartwarming and fullfiling to see someone you care about or love, reach their life goals.
But it is also heartbreaking and disencouraging to watch them stumble or fall while trying to reach the stars.
Because you get involved with them to a certain level where their goals become your goals, where you celebrate their victories as if they were your own and you feel their failures as if it it damaged your own life.
And you know why? Because it is true.
Our family members, our closest friends, our partner and even our enemies, they are all part of us, They live inside us and their success or failure at some point affects our lifes.
And that is how it should be, we are social beings, we like to be considered part of something bigger, to feel like we belong, that we are not alone in this world.
So, if they are that important for us and, if our life goals are also theirs, how come we are so hard on ourselves and why do we let them ignore the small wins?, just because it is not he main victory the one achieved?
Celebrate the small victories! If they are your own, make a big deal about them! If the win comes from someone you care about, cheer up for them!
We are so blinded by someone else´s definition of success that oftenly we ignore these small achievements because we think they don´t matter, we are so obsessed with the main goal that we miss out on the opportunity of being happy about the petty accomplisments.
- Were you striving for a promotion but instead got a salary raise? Celebrate it, it is still a win!
- Was she looking for that dream job and in her way to the interview she stumbled upon a los friendship thus lost the interview? Cheer her up, it was still a victory!
- Was your son trying to get on the soccer team and, realized his true dream is to be a cheerleader? It doesn´t matter, getting to know himself is more important than the main goal. Encourage him to follow his dreams no matter what. It is a success!
This is not about conformism, it is about recognizing that in every situation or experience, we have something to learn and to celebrate. Don´t let other people lose their way just because things are not happening the way they think they should.
Don´t lose that magic inside you just because you think success is not coming fast enough, there is a victory in every day and we should learn to recognize them, but most importantly, to celebrate them!
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Awesome post, its so important to be able to take things as they come. Being able to be happy even in difficult situations or times is an incredibly hard skill to master, but i think you have an excellent job in pointing out many of the steps to getting there. Always remember those who count, family, good friends, lovers. Realize all things are temporary, even terrible feelings. Be in the moment. ANYTHING IS ACHIEVABLE!!!!! I mean right now im getting paid to write poetry, that has been a dream of mine for as long as i can remember. Thanks to Steem its happening!
This is so true, and perhaps it is not the ultimate goal but stil, you are coming closer and closer every step you take and it is great that you are celebrating this!
It is so hard to be happy with what we have because we are always aiming for the next step, but that doesn´t mean we can´t be grateful and appreciate what we have done so far!
Great post man! I also find it hard to be grateful for what i have. Thanks for this inspiring piece man! Just what i need!
Great post! I think things happen for a reason, and even if thing doesn't go the way we plan, we still learn evolve and getting closer to our goals. Being surrounded with people that always keep trying, only makes you stronger and more determined to achieve your goals
Thank you Helen! Exactly, even by losing we are winnning as you say. You know what? I am not there anymore but I was sooo close to you when I went to CR, I don´t know why I didn´t tell you to make a mini steemit meet up!
Really good post! And it is true that we are often so focused on achieving the big goals that we over see the smaller once, even though they are also important. And yes, if someone I love succeeds in something it will definitely cheer me up too almost as if it was my success. We do share both our happiness and sorrows with those closest to us.
Great post, and congrats once again on getting the ticket for steemfest! :) Hope it's going well with organizing your journey there!
Every goal is important! But we don´t see it that way, sadly if it´s not a big win we tend to overlook small wins, but small wins make a big win you know? You have to achieve a set of small wins that will get you to the bigger one...
I am still undergoing the whole process! I hope I´m able to tell you in a few days "I got the plane ticket":)
Thanks for dropping by!
Yes, I agree completely! I'm holding my thumbs up, hopefully everything works out well :)
Good lessons here. I've always had difficulty celebrating any win for myself, especially the big ones, and it does seem like recognizing all the small accomplishments and steps along the way can really help someone keep going . Schwee!
For me it was the same, I was exactly like that, so hard on myself sometimes I hated myself for not being perfect on every sense... But when I started to celebrate life and every little achievement, even those that seem stupid like teaching my dog how to roll, life became bright in every possible way, and I achieved easily every other goal. It is a matter of perspective I think... Schwee!