Morning Coffee Writing
There can be only two mistakes in relationships: to try to kill a living relationships and keep a dead relationships.
Romantic love is a feeling passing through. Psychologists say that the maximum period of the existence of romantic love is one and a half years. Next, or we over this period creates a more fundamental, mature relationship, or we part.
Relations do not appear by themselves. They must be created, building painstakingly and constantly.
And this should be a mutual process. There is an opinion that in the relationship "one loves, and the other lets you love yourself." I do not think that such "crooked" relationships can be called healthy. It is necessary to have a sufficient degree of disrespect for yourself, to devote your life to relationships with the narcissistic personality.
Imagine that you are walking towards each other and between you there are 100 meters. For normal harmonious relations, everyone must pass exactly a half - 50 meters. You can go with different speeds, this is normal. But you must stop when you have reached half way. And not a step further! You wait for your partner here. Or he will reach you, or he is not interested in your relations (or this is consumer interest) and then it is the best decision just to turn around and leave.
What keeps us in a dead relationship? Fear of loneliness? But in such relations a person is already alone, because he has only the illusion of relations. Children? But children will grow up, create their own families. In addition, children will see that their parents are not happy together and it does not follow their own happier. Money? There is no person who, having made an effort, could not earn a living.
The second big mistake is to kill live relationships. When your partner starts to irritate you, stop, remember the period of your romantic love. What were you like? What did you feel like? Fix this feeling inside yourself and try to communicate from this point. You will feel your irritation go away, and your partner's attitude towards you also changes.
I wish you love and harmony.
Have a wonderful day and good mood.
i like your post
Thank you:)
One of the building blocks of a stable relationship is emotional maturity which comes with experience. I don't know about you, but I've seen people exiting a long relationship that was not good for them and getting married almost right away. They gain the experience and maturity from the problematic first one and then they are ready to be part of a better one. I see it happen all the time.
I agree with you. The main thing is that they were able to get out of the relationship, which had already fulfilled their role, that is, they died, and did not try to safe them.
Unfortunately, this doesn't always happen on time. Very often it comes a few years late. I know I've done that for sure.
Thanks for your insight! You make some good points!
Thank you:)
I liked it! Just a comment: "There is no person who, having made an effort, could not earn a living." That issue is way more complicated than that!
Thank you for your comment:)