Oh wow, you are going through so much and I can totally relate to your reactions to how people asked you different questions. This often happens when we aren't at peace with ourselves and have troubling things going on in our head. I had the same frustrations when I was going through a bad financial crisis and used to flip each time someone ask me 'How are you?'
I flip is when I see or hear people addressing rhetorical questions. I rather have them ignore me than pretend or being polite.