TRUTH: I am shy about ....uhm.. errrr sex OMG! i said it. Why is that? Well, its because my mom was not only shy about it. She accidently created a negative aversion to it for me (dm me lauren if you want to know how). And She and my stepfather shamed me, my body, my interest in boys (and later girls). Add on to that moving a million times so that i never have a long term friend--- YOu have LIMA- awkwardly losing virginity at 19 and then refusing intercourse by default and getting angry about talking about it until maybe... 31??

And guess what?? I STILL WATCHED PORN.

This is a thing that may come as a shock to people since I get anrgy about sex talk in group chats because it feels non-consensual to me and hate pick up lines and cat-calling. But let me just admit it here on Lady Izzy L's blog page.

I like sexy stuff. I like sex. I am best at intimacy leading up to intercourse but I am interested in having it and talking about it and I agree that the more we shame it and hush it--- the worse it makes it.

I was recently calling out my amazing friend for posting a very cute video of his boy naked because OMG THE PEDOS WILL STEAL IT AND ITS DANGEROUS.

And he told me: I refuse to hide my child because naked children are natural and not sexual.

It really was hard for me to let go of that "protective" thing and I KNOW its because the way I was raised taught me that nudity and sex are shameful.

Its gonna be a long debate though because I still think that their are creeps out there and there is a liability issue if a parent doesn't want their child to critique porn. But I like your passion and spirit and perspective. This is exactly what womensspeakout is for. Maybe I will be brave enough to make a full post about my sexuality and experience with shame. Right now I just made a very revealing comment for a confused half-prude-freak. But here it is. Free.