Life | Human feelings on the radar: jealousy and envy
Each of us test countless feelings during the lifetime, but many of these are not noble, you live with them, you try to improve, it is not easy to fight them. In my journey of life I must admit that I tried them a bit ‘all, as it happens to every human being, unfortunately these negative feelings today are in vogue as the company always puts us more in competition.
Today I want to talk about jealousy and envy, carcinogenic feelings for the personality that often turn in violence. When is not so they wear out anyway who try these hardships, as well as spreading negative energy around him. Now i call them hardships because any negative feelings that we feel towards our next reveal inner insecurity, also vomited every negative feeling about the next is as if on ourselves.
I can be jealous of my girlfriend, I can be envious against a friend, I can be jealous of objects I possess, I can be envious of the changes that someone close to me is able to realize in his life path. Why? When our lives doesn’t really satisfies us, when we do not feel worthy of our partners who lives serenely and with great inner strength, we are jealous. When an acquaintance of ours has more, has more power, more wealth, plays a rewarding job, and we will not admit we have not all that he has, here we are envious.
We can not possibly say that we are jealous or envious because this is part of our character. The alibi of the character is abused but does not work. The education there that was given to us during the first years of life and the evolution between adolescence and maturity, we are infinite beings and not defined. No one can deny that everyone is born with equal opportunities for expansion in terms of formation and evolution of our INNER luggage. However, materialism and rationality that we have to “honor” today crush and don’t allow us to listen and look inside for a change.
Jealousy and violence against women
Made changes is the only way to cleanup from infections caused by jealousy and envy, the concrete cases that take place in today’s society can only open our eyes. And ‘terrible tendency to violence that comes every day by arid men towards their partners, women who until proven say they love. The contrary evidence is there, clear in their possessiveness and violence before then; the misery of the male personality (which is usually identified as the sex “strong”) that falls apart in front of the loyalty and purity of the female personality who reacts so fantastic.
In fact, the woman continues to love even under attack, try to do it even when it is dishonored by hatred, abuse, beatings, meanness, control by man. Sometimes we come to define these women blind, stupid, idiots (pardon the strong words but I want these conflict with the word love). Why we try to blame them? They only try to extinguish the fire of blind men crazy in such circumstances, with the only weapon possessed, love, continue to love.
This should make us think deeply because she embodies all the strength and loyalty of the feelings, selflessly and total love. The man who wants to try at all costs to feel the ruler, the leader, the strong one, and who provides for the couple’s needs, perish before the harshness of a life that too often today asks to appear rather than to be. We like it or not, men are protagonists of these horrific events with the excuse to half the pressure that their company pays on, but there are no excuses to their actions since everyone and I mean everyone can ask for help to open her feminine side that exists in every human being and that shines with noble sentiments and admit their limits. Anyone could be helped, the help would arrive from their own victims, amazing right?
I was distressed at the same time amazed by the innumerable cases of femicide and violence against women exploded in recent years, due to morbid jealousy and uncontrollable by the captors companions. And when the woman tries to escape without more forces, it is amazing to see so much envy in tow; so even when the affection had nothing more to write on the pages of a now ill history, the ogre rages.
The exhausted and desperate woman now finds the strength to get away, try to rebuild a new life, just wants to continue to live in love, the only thing that she can do, live loving everyone and everything. Then the ogre that cannot and does not want to lose the challenge seeks to destroy every possible new way of redemption that the former partner try to undertake.
He is blinded by envy towards the force that the lotus flower of womanhood can effort in all circumstances, or die and be reborn again. He does not fit it! With brute force and flames of hatred blinding uproots the lotus flower before it can put new roots and emerge from the murky waters of the past with more beauty and strength. With knives, gasoline, ropes, kicks and punches, destroy and destroy for the nothing that is within him. He pursued, observes it closely, the intimidating and possibly threatens well as the new companion, the ogre despite being composed of insecurity and misery trying to play all out! Thus is able to cope with even her parents, her friends sometimes try to relent, sometimes attacking, sometimes spits untrue guilt on the victim’s clothes. Sneaky like the lies and the plans without limits that he can design. why?…
Failure, competition, envy on the level of partners bring to the blind madness. Often the person surrounds himself with other male characters dull and limited, also insecure that pleased him, bear him and support him in his crazy thoughts and projects. How to help these lost people? Unfortunately I do not have the ability to recommend effective solutions to these obscure trends; the causes as mentioned above are due to the way of life of our times or perhaps from other personal trauma, are not at all easy to dissect and correct.
Where are you? What are you doing? Who do you see? You cannot go out with those friends! Why you see at lunch your colleague? Why do you dress like succinct whore? They offered a job of greater responsibility in a new city? No no, you do not move from here!
As we said often the ogre has no real friends or perhaps has “friends” of characters equally unhealthy mentally closed as not being able to feel satisfied by these relationships. Therefore envy everything that is beautiful the partner may have around at social level. The ogre as he is often seen doing a job that rewards him longer, or repetitive, as in today’s society as a low profile, or perhaps has economic problems, gamble, drink too often, use chemical drugs, He turns to drift inward. And then the ogre must restore in his opinion partner too happy and fulfilled towards his raft faltering within his stormy sea. Until the crash against the cliffs of insanity.
But the real man, mature, grown, doesn’t show it through its material wealth, social position, the arrogance of his “friends”, the strength of his muscles. The worthy man wraps his woman in the most noble feelings, warm smiles and hugs, the beauty that draws in his life. He arrives to fuse his life with the partner’s one in a special game Practices and shares. The real man unites and blends to create something great together, opens his heart in times of difficulties and loves indulging the wisdom of partners, he accepts any advice and give thanks. He writes the pages of that book of love gripping the pen with her. I really hope that the universe love hugs women all over the planet because today more than ever, society needs their infinite kindness.
Why envy? What do you have that I lack?
I believe that each of you have tried at least once in a lifetime negative sentiment of envy. We envy friends when kids, because they have more good and expensive games than us, adolescence friend with the most advanced and cool veicle, then we grow envious for acquaintance the powerful machine or the job that It makes more powerful. The materialistic envy explodes caused by social competition that today’s system triggers inside the masses. There’s also the personal envy or when we are fascinated by a person with charisma and strong inner qualities, or perhaps a friend with a beautiful girlfriend, inside and out, so we do not feel up to it.
In any case, whether materialistic or personal this feeling is, it makes us uncomfortable. We must therefore understand discomfort and try to transform this feeling from negative into a positive. Envy can be transformed into the most noble feelings such as respect and admiration, as well as becoming a flywheel rather productive for our personal growth.
Maturing positively is easy to realize that wealth and power are not always synonymous of happiness. Today we hear all too often say “the money is not important but help, all right!”
Well maybe it is partly true, but we should also think about how often wealth and power go hand in hand with sadness and inner emptiness. Traveling a lot and discovering different cultures, often poorer than the Italian culture where I lived my past, made me realize that happiness is much more often in simplicity. Sit and drink some beer with humble people with a smile always on face, curious to listen to you and proud to be heard, share without competing, help each other, “no ifs, ands or buts.”
It opens a world where you see that envy does not make sense to exist. We are all equal with our life mission here on planet earth, our physical body but with a kind soul that beats within us. Before I envied those who possessed more than me from the material point of view, in a competition for their own sake. Wondering, if I were super rich or the most powerful machine under the seat, I would really be happier? No way, I can say firmly. I remember in life that every time I lived in periods of greater abundance and wealth, automatically that kind of life had a lower level of awareness and happiness.
For example,being rich, leads to more travels, I didn’t do it preferring to squander the money in alcoholic drinks and bars, in dinners with beautiful girls only in order to bring them to bed, in gambling, and so on and so forth. Some might opine on these claims, for example by saying that if he were rich would not be as stupid as it was me! Then I could answer that richness needs sacrifice, money does not grow on trees. Well, if you work, you can not travel, or whatever you can do it but remaining bound, a completely different flavor! Cut to the point, wealth is a wonderful thing when it’s in the hands of a noble personality, when you are not as important for monetary value but when you can use to make the world better. Justments, if I were rich I’d try today to invest this wealth in activities that can improve the world because I know perfectly well that the alternative to this use would be to squander it only for defects and an abundance materialist who can not possibly lead to happiness.
Having digressed a little bit, time to turn back and conclude on envy. I believe that we are envious when we are not able to blow up our potential, then we stop to observe the material things; and yet we are envious when we realize that we do not treat our personality and our joy in living enough. Why begrudge a friend happily in love with a beautiful and talented girl? She is her mirror, probably deserves it, and if not the deserved more in the future, life will change his and their fate. But us? From our point of view we should be glad if we see happiness and success in others, cultivating these positive feelings can get the gasoline that ignite our success.
Envy makes us small, crumpled on ourselves in a life that does not evolve. Envy is enclosed in our insecurity and burns energy that could be invested in our personal growth. If you are lazy, if you are shy, if you are insecure, if they are physically just handsome, is not it time to move mind and sit to improve myself? When envy will be turned into admiration and sincere smile standing out on our face listening to the successes of our companions in life, then yes, we would certainly be on the right way.
They will also be prepared and delighted in giving us tips to evolve. Why do I see a music teacher, a yoga teacher, a scientist who won the Nobel Prize, my father, my mother, but I envy a friend or a famous TV character? Because the competition and the mania of owning, try to dominate us. Say no! Work on yourself, don’t sit to watch and criticize wasting precious energy and time to live for YOU! Good luck to all!