Winners and Losers

“Winner” and “Loser” have many meanings. Becoming a winner does not mean makes someone else lose. A winner is the man who is credible, trustworthy, responsive, and genuine, as in individual or in society. A loser is the one who fails to responds what a winner does.
Winner
For the winner, achievement is not the most important thing. Authenticity is. The authentic person experiences self-reality by knowing, being, and becoming a credible, responsive person. He or she actualize their own uniqueness and appreciate others’.

• Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge.
• Winners do not play “helpless” or “blaming game”. They do not give others a false authority over them.
• A winner’s timing is right. Winners know that for everything there is a season and for every activity a time.
• Winners learn to know their feelings and limitations and to be unafraid of them.
• Winners can be spontaneous. They allow to change their plans when the situation calls for it.
• A winner cares about the world and its people. He or she works to make the world better

Loser
Although people are born to win, they are also helpless and dependent on the environment. A winner changes it, but a loser does not. A lack of response to dependency needs, poor nutrition, brutality, unhappy relationship, disease, continuing disappointments, inadequate physical care, and traumatic events are among the many experiences that contribute to make people losers.

• Losers speak themselves as succesful but anxious, succesful but trapped, or succesful but unhappy.
• Losers seldom lives in the present, but destroy it by focusing on past memories or future expectations. They wait for imagical rescue rather than pursuing the dream.
• Losers repress their capacities. They are afraid to try new things.
• A loser has difficulty giving and receiving affection and does not enter into intimate, honest, direct relationships with others.
• Losers are not using their own intellect appropriately.

Adapted from the book “Born to Win” (Muriel James, Ph.D. and Dorothy Jongeward, Ph.D), 1971