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In the family life, it is undeniable, we will deal with various problems, which are closely related to the weakness / deficiency of each of us as a couple. This is part of sunnatullah, every one of us has weaknesses, in addition that each of us have advantages / excellence / privileges that are not owned by others. If Imam Ghazali says that this life is between patience and gratitude, that faith is half of gratitude, and the other half is patient, so too is the life of a husband in the family. Sometimes, at a certain moment, a husband must be patient, with a wife's behavior that is less pleasing in his heart, and at that time the wife is grateful for having a patient husband. On another occasion, it is the wife's turn to be patient, to see the shortcomings / weakness of the husband, while the husband should be grateful because his wife can be patient.

I am reminded of one story (either fiction or real), which I once heard from a ustadz who is also a psychologist. There is a husband and wife, the husband's face is mediocre, while his wife is very beautiful (in general the judgment of such people). Once, the husband came home with a lot of money, and immediately given to his wife. Then the husband set off again. When returning home, the husband declared, the money that yesterday had been used for? But the wife did not remember that the husband had given the money, she completely forgot where she had kept it, while a few days ago, she had cleared the house, and she remembered that the bundle had been wasted in the trash when cleaning the house. So, it turns out, his wife whose face is very beautiful, has shortcomings, people forgetful. Fortunately her husband was able to be patient, face it. This story becomes one example that the life of husband and wife, indeed between 'patience and gratitude'. Yesterday2 wife who must be patient, have a husband whose face is mediocre, and husband is much grateful, because it has a very beautiful wife. With the incident, the husband must be patient, because his wife is forgetful, and grateful wife because, her husband is not angry with the incident.

The need for patience and gratitude as above, must be faced by all couples. Without exception. Sometimes a wife must be patient to see the husband's behavior has not changed, although repeatedly reminded, the husband still often piled up and hang clothes in or kapstok room. Sometimes a husband who has to be patient, finds his unskilled wife-skilled at operating the computer, although many times tela taught by her husband. Sometimes a husband who feels so grateful, has a wife who is good at arranging the house to be comfortable, sometimes the wife who feels so grateful, has a husband who is so concerned about the education of children.